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    I hate it when someone complains about their rough time and another poster comes in and tells them how much worse they could have it.

    Their problems are big for them and if we compared all our issues to the worst possible scenario then we'd all feel too guilty to express our disappointment, frustration and grief.

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    Firstly I want to say to the OP, this is a really great thread.
    What makes my life difficult? My whole adult life I seem to have been hit with one bad/difficult situation after another. Teen mum, horrible partner, emotional abuse, ruined me financially, son diagnosed with ASD. Though I do have to admit that I now have a wonderful partner and another beautiful baby but it seems no matter how hard we work we never really get on top.

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    Mine is I'm lonely my family and friends are hours away my feelings for DP are fading n my DS has ADHD and ODD so it's challenging n I often feel like packing up the kids n I and running away back home to have my friends and families support

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    We can't get a homeloan. DH is on a 3 month contract at a time and my casual work doesn't count because I've only been doing it for 8 weeks.
    Also, I really wanted a VBAC, but I have placenta previa.
    But I'm lucky to only live 20 minutes from mum, so she can babysit and DH doesn't work long hours, so we get lots of time together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shinebrite View Post
    SOOOO um a lot of us are lonely/no family support. How do you all cope? I talk the farmers ears off at the markets on Saturdays..


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    It's tough! This is my third pregancy and my mum & sisters have never seen me preggers or met my children (eldest will be 5 this year) I am also yet to meet my neice & nephew)
    Thankgoodess for FB and my iphone otherwise i would completely lose it!!!


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    I love this thread.
    What makes my life hard?
    I don't really have family close by. My step sister is half hour away but we have an odd relationship.
    My parents live in Sydney because of my step dads work and my sister lives in london, all I want to do is call mum and my sis and BEG them to move back to Brisbane.
    Also I have no friends. I don't mean no close friends, I have none.
    hubby and I used to be in a group of immature friends and they just kept dragging us down so we have slowly separated ourselves from them.
    Now he has one or two good friends that we see every month or so.
    but I would love to have someone, ANYone to spend some time with.
    I'm not confident in my appearance so I find it hard to even attempt to make friends.
    I stay home all day every day and only go out on weekends with hubby cause he is my only friend/support person.
    Its really hard, and kinda depressing.

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    I'm a single parent.
    There is limited care available for my child, and what I do have is expensive and unreliable.
    I have no family support from my family, and none from FOB's family either.
    Often when I work, I do a 38 hour week, but other times I have none because the carer pulls out and there aren't any school hour positions.
    I seem to miss out on stuff like Autism treatments are now covered until 13, not 6 but I have already paid thousands in treatments and she needs things now that are not covered anyway.
    Also receive no child support a lot of the time, and when I do it's less than $10/month.
    I do all the cooking, all the cleaning, all the running to appointments, all the yard work, all the school interviews, everything completely on my own, and bring in the money myself too.
    I secured a house on my own, bought a car on my own, look after the animals on my own, stay upp all night when we have a bad night, but no time for a nap the next day, not at all.
    All that, and that's not even the hard part.
    The hard part is knowing that society looks down on me for being a single parent.

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    My biggest obstacles.....most of my obstacles are within my own realm of control/within myself. To the outside world- my biggest obstacle is probably the fact that I'm a single parent. Most of the time- I handle this fine. I'm independent and love being on my own.
    I find my obstacles are a desire to prove myself- to whom, I'm not sure. The guilt that I'm not giving DS enough/the childhood I envisioned for my kid/s- sometimes I feel DS has had to grow up so fast. My inability to talk about my feelings with family/friends.
    Mostly this has all resulted in me taking on a lot- full time work, part time study and now a business, being stressed and anxious a lot of the time. I also find that I expect too much of DS.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pynk View Post
    my main one is no support. I ring my mum but she says she doesn't want to know. I don't really have friends since moving out here. I don't really know how to do friendships anyway as I am a bit aspergers. I hate having to rely on the big kids to help with the little ones when Im in hospital as I have acute pancreatitis. I had to be induced with miss 2 so I could do it on a school day and be home by the time afterschool care finished as I had noone to look after the kids

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    Where abouts do you live? I would be more than willing to help with the kids.

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    I think this is a great thread choice.
    i'm not a mum (yet) but i'd like to contribute anyway so i hope this doesnt rub anyone up the wrong way.
    What makes my life hard?
    I have no family where i live. I am in ipswich, my dad is in mackay and my mum and twin sister are in sydney. I have literally 2 friends in QLD and neither of them live particularly close to me so it's hard to have support around when i've needed it.
    My husband has an acquired brain injury after being brutally attacked december 2010. I am still trying to come to terms with the fact that i will never have my old (pre injury) husband back.
    Even though my husband was in australia for nearly 6 years and here legally the whole time immigration sent him back to fiji in october. He can't receive the help he needs for his ABI in Fiji.
    But i have also found ways to cope with these situations. i try to find a positive in every negative. i might not have my family physically with me, but i talk to my mum every single day and my sister and i email and text at least 20 times a day. My husband might not be the same husband i had before but he's still mine and i am grateful to have someone who loves me and cares about me as much as he does, even if he doesnt always show it (controlling emotions can be quite hard for someone with an ABI). And, while it sucks that he's had to go back to fiji, i am now taking a big step and have resigned from my job to join him in fiji for 6 months!
    Life can be unbearable sometimes, for all of us, but i challenge myself to find a positive with every situation i am struggling to deal with. it might not work for everyone, but it has helped me a lot.
    Lastly sometimes all it takes to feel better is a massive cry! after i've had a big cry i often find myself thinking "if only i'd done that a month ago!"
    It's good to see there are such strong woman and mothers out there, and i hope i can be as strong a person when i become a mother myself

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