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    Default Husband going away close to my due date - what would you do?

    As it suggests, just found out he's off interstate to see a mate for his engagement. He is only gone for two nights but its 20days before my due date in March. I'll be 37wks.

    He has told me he won't go if it worries me that much. To be honest I am a bit worried - what if I go into labour early? Id hate to be alone for the birth and for him to miss out on his first child's birth. He would really regret it.

    So what would you do?

    Would you be ok with this?

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    I'm 21 weeks and I hate DP being away now!

    No way would I want him interstate ten days before my due date!

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    The chance of you going into labour and giving birth (presuming this is your first child?) before he gets home is pretty slim, as he can always catch a sooner flight if needed... However I understand your concern. Dp was away until 4 day before I gave birth and I worried like crazy.

    If it is going to add alot of unneeded stress on your part, then I would probably ask him not to go. After all, the birth of his child is more important.

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    Maybe you could comprimise and shorten the trip to only one night or something? I agree with cookie, it is pretty slim chances, but a shorter trip might be the middle ground between going and not going?

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    I understand how you feel! DH is FIFO and although his roster has him home on baby's due date, the gestation at which DD was born (she was born early), he will be away. I'm guessing (and I have a hunch) that I will go into labour while he is away. He is away 2 weeks at a time. My sister is my other birth partner and as soon as he gets the call he will be put straight on the first flight home. I am trying not to think about it and I'll cross that bridge when I get there!

    Good luck I hope your DH is home when baby decides to meet you!

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    I know exactly how you feel. DP was working away from 37-39+5 weeks with DD.

    He now works FIFO and will be coming home the day before bubs is due. I'm terrified but also have a feeling that I will have bubs 3 days after due date.

    Unfortunately, if i do go into labour before he comes home, it could be 1-3 days before he can get a flight home. Especially if it's a weekend.

    I'm sure you will be fine and as a PP said, can he compromise and make it only 1 night away?

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    With DS my DH was FIFO. He was away when I went into (false) labour at 38weeks. He flew down and was there 6 hours later. Labour picked up again at 39weeks and DS was born, he was home.

    This time I live in a closed mining town. I am being kicked out of town at 36 weeks pregnant.. DH will be coming down to where I am (1600km away) 6 days before due date.

    Am I a little nervous...? Yes. But, only because it will be 6 days before due date and DS was a little early. 20 days wouldnt worry me, especially for only 2 nights. Worst case, if it were me and I went into labour - this will be our plan anyway - DH will hop on the next available flight and hopefully make it.

    You have to feel comfortable with the decision in the end though.

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    My dh is a die hard be all and end all fisherman if he doesnt go fishing on the weekend you would think I cut his arm off! I "landbased" him 4 weeks before I was due just in case. Omg the longest 4 weeks of my life .
    Unfortunately I think you are in the "damed if you do damed if you don't" category. If you get him to stay home nothing will happen and you will hear about it forever- I know I do! At least you dh sounds understanding fingers crossed and hugs!

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    I had my first bub at 36 + 4 so i would defiantly ask him not to go, especially if you are worried bout it. It's only the engagement it's not like it's the wedding and I mean gee even if it was it's his baby too!
    Good luck with everything

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    My dh is a die hard be all and end all fisherman if he doesnt go fishing on the weekend you would think I cut his arm off! I "landbased" him 4 weeks before I was due just in case. Omg the longest 4 weeks of my life .
    Unfortunately I think you are in the "damed if you do damed if you don't" category. If you get him to stay home nothing will happen and you will hear about it forever- I know I do! At least you dh sounds understanding fingers crossed and hugs!


 

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