I'm not gonna get into a debate about the right terminology and victim-blaming etc, just wanted to say, I think when Lonni said education is important, she meant that women need to know that what is happening is not 'part of birth', and 'normal' and a doctor's right. Lonni, correct me if I am wrong, but I understood it to mean that until society recognises and treats birth rape for what it is, it won't be recognised by individuals as such. As she and many others have explained, many women know that something is not right, they feel violated and traumatised, but are not sure why, because the dr is just doing his/her job, and I 'got a healthy baby at the end of it', right? If we educate women on their rights as a patient to say 'NO', and to be properly informed, and to give (or not give) consent, then perhaps birth rape will be recognised for what it is. Many victims don't even recognise it as such until they read something about it (and very few are really privileged enough to access this info).
I also believe that *most* carers have good intentions, which the same can't be said for rapists. Again, I don't know enough, and have not experienced either rape, or birth rape, and don't feel qualified to comment on the right terminology for either. I also recognise that 'good intentions' on behalf of the perpetrator don't make the experience any less traumatic for the vicim, I'm not suggesting that at all. But I guess i'm just saying that I can see where Lonni is differentiating between the two.
Its so sad to hear so many women have had such awful experiences at such a profound, life changing time in their lives