I think had I had bubhub I could have avoided *some* of the things that happened. Though some things happened so quickly I don't think I could have stopped it even of I was prepared.
Last edited by Boobycino; 17-01-2012 at 20:47.
I'm sorry to hear some of your stories ladies = (
Thank you for this article-it has helped me feel much better about DS2's birth. Strange, I had thought I had put it behind me but it turns out it still upsets me?
I had a perfectly normal (albeit fast) delivery. Bubs and I were fine but my placenta was taking too long to come away. A doctor I've never seen before, hadn't been present throughout the actual birth, waltzed in, told me she'd 'help me'...then proceeded to shove her arm inside me and tried to reef the stupid thing out. Almost passed out from pain, DP almost got violent with her, I ended up in emergency surgery, lost 2 liters of blood and almost my life because they stuffed around for too long booking an OP and I was bleeding everywhere...what makes me the most furious is that I'm so desperate for more babies but I'm just too scared to be treated so badly again...how dare they take that from me!
This is so utterly devastating to read. Moreso because it is rampant in the world of birth- these doctors and midwives don't even know what they are doing most of the time, the action is mechanical. As far as they are concerned it's a neccessary procedure. It's bullsh!t.
I was a doula for 4 years or so- I have seen so much of this. Its heartbreaking. And tomorrow night, I find out if my dream to become a midwife will indeed become a reality, when Uni offers come out. If I am successful I can not wait to get stuck into the world of birth and start to change stuff. I understand I am going to see MUCH worse than I ever saw as a doula but I will be in a better position to question, challenge and change things that are simply just not right.
Good luck roopee!
Why did my post get removed? I didn't say anything bad at all? Just gave sympathy.
I think education is the key. Most women, especially in country areas, are given birthing information from the people perpertrating the assult, doctors, midwifes and the visiting nurses.
I had my pre natal lessons at the hospital by one of the midwifes that delivered my baby. We were never once told about our rights or our choices beyond epi vs gas or walking aroud vs balls etc.
Like primary and secondary education there should be a national carriculum or standard set of information that must be delivered to all expecting parents either with the orange books or at pre natal classes.
The fact that the article call it sexual abuse realy annoys me, so much i am shaking.
It is not, it is completely different, as venezuala put it Obsetric assult is a much better way to put it. Sexual abuse is for the perpertrators gratification and has more grooming and guilt involved, more of a head f*** is involved. Obsetric assult is a complete and total disregard for the patient.
I also think that birth rape is a very silly name and should not be used.
Having experienced both serious sexual abuse and obsetric assult i can tell you there is a definate difference. T
here are similar feeliongs and reprocussions like guilt or helplesness but lumping them both together diminishes the importance of both situations.
Sorry if i annoyed any one with my opinion, but they are just that, opinions and i never said i was right.
Last edited by lonni; 17-01-2012 at 21:25.
Pregnant for the first-time?
Not sure where to start? We can help!
Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!