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    Unhappy P0rn blamed for children's problem sexual behaviour

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    VICTORIAN children as young as five are being referred to specialist programs to address sexually abusive behaviour - and the number of minors exhibiting such behaviour is exploding.


    The availability of p0rnography through portable devices drastically affects a child's understanding of acceptable sexual behaviour, according to experts, and is being blamed for the rapid escalation in cases.


    In 2010-11, there was funding for 237 places in 13 locations across the state in problem sexual behaviour programs provided by the Centres Against Sexual Assault (CASA). But demand far outstripped funded places - the programs had 414 participants.




    CASA statewide convener Carolyn Worth said the problems had worsened in the past year and many areas, particularly rural centres, needed more funding. The younger children (aged five to nine) were often - but not always - referred to the program because they were victims of abuse, Ms Worth said.


    Many of the program's participants were boys, Ms Worth said, but there were some girls, including an 11-year-old who was sexting (where a person sends sexually explicit picture messages of themselves).


    ''Clearly it [p0rnography] desensitises you, it probably gives them a strange idea of what's an appropriate way to interact with, mostly, women,'' Ms Worth said.


    ''If they've spent a lot of time watching it, they don't have any idea of how you actually negotiate having sex with somebody. They just don't understand it.''


    Victoria's Child Safety Commissioner, Bernie Geary, said the world was impacting on children in ''a rather frightening way in some cases'' and parents needed to be aware of what their children were doing online and with their mobile phones, many of which now had internet capability. ''I'm not sympathetic with parents who are not close enough to their children to protect them, because that's part of the role of being a parent,'' Mr Geary said. ''If you're prepared to put your child out there in a world where they're going to be inundated with this sort of information [p0rnography], you need to be able to a) protect them, or b) expect what the fairly miserable consequences will be.


    ''This is more and more a wake-up call for parents. Don't wring your hands about this, don't expect schools to be the saviour, this is something that begins at home and should be tackled proactively at home.''


    Attendance at the CASA program was voluntary, Ms Worth said, and in some cases criminal offending was too serious for referral. She said behaviour typical of a 10-to-14-year-old participant included touching other children inappropriately and forcefully, forcing other children to conduct inappropriate acts on them, or acting threateningly and aggressively to younger children. For 15-to-17-year-olds, it was sexual assault or involved other young children.


    Mr Geary said it was important not to blame children for the circumstances they were in. ''It's not as if children are acting out more these days than they used to, it's just that the adult world is pushing this information at children much more vehemently than they ever did before and that's why it's become necessary … to cope with that,'' he said


    Read more: http://www.theage.com.au/national/po...#ixzz1jcDVifpJ

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    ''Clearly it [pornography] desensitises you, it probably gives them a strange idea of what's an appropriate way to interact with, mostly, women,''
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    For anyone who's interested, Net Nanny has now released a filter for android tablets and phones, and expects to release an iPad filter in march 2012

    Does anyone know of another filter for iPads?

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    It's disturbing. I have an 11 yr old DD who has already been what I would call assaulted. A boy from the same class took her to some trees, told her to lay down, got on top of her and started "humping" her. Clothes were on, but it's still assault in my eyes. There's so much sexual content for kids to witness these days. I wonder if there's a filter I can install on DD's iPod Touch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissPoss View Post
    It's disturbing. I have an 11 yr old DD who has already been what I would call assaulted. A boy from the same class took her to some trees, told her to lay down, got on top of her and started "humping" her. Clothes were on, but it's still assault in my eyes. There's so much sexual content for kids to witness these days. I wonder if there's a filter I can install on DD's iPod Touch.
    or your DD - that's appalling

    In March there will be a app that is a internet filter of ipods/ipads/iphones etc there is already an app for android tablets and phones

    I will make sure I post when I hear that it has been released

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    Quote Originally Posted by WorkingClassMum View Post
    or your DD - that's appalling

    In March there will be a app that is a internet filter of ipods/ipads/iphones etc there is already an app for android tablets and phones

    I will make sure I post when I hear that it has been released
    Thank you WCM. I also forgot to mention the reason she blindly followed the boy was because she is on the ASD spectrum. Her paediatricians solution to "help" her is to put her on the pill because she's vulnerable. I chose not to mess with her hormones at this early stage and have worked on arming her with knowledge instead.

    Looking forward to this filter.

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    Oh, MissPoss Your poor DD, that's appalling...is your DD having counselling now?

    WCM...this scares and saddens me, so so much

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tam-I-Am View Post
    Oh, MissPoss Your poor DD, that's appalling...is your DD having counselling now?
    DD is seeing a speech therapist to help her learn body language and how to recognize certain social situations, including dangerous ones. We're on the list to see a psychologist, hopefully not too much longer.

    I watched a British program not too long ago that demonstrated how watching p*rn has skewed kids perception on relationships and women. I was surprised at how many had access to p*rn. And it's not just p*rn. Some of the lyrics in songs out on main****** radio at the moment are obscene. I'm not a prude by any stretch, but when my DD is blindly singing along to a song about S&M it disturbs me.

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    So how exactly does a five year old get access to enough pronography to severely influence their behaviour?
    Daily uncontrolled access to a computer, an iphone?

    Surely that shows that the problem has started with a skewed social interaction at home.

    Does "rural areas" mean Aboriginal communities? I'm not trying to offend, it is a serious question. Sometimes "rural homes" means an Aboriginal hut town, sometimes it only means people that live in the countryside.

    Also, the only proof I could find of pronography actually being the proven issue was, quote, "and is being blamed".

    Is there any presented solid proof that the abused children have had access to pronography, or it is another where they don't know the cause of a negative action but are scapegoating one?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissPoss View Post
    Thank you WCM. I also forgot to mention the reason she blindly followed the boy was because she is on the ASD spectrum. Her paediatricians solution to "help" her is to put her on the pill because she's vulnerable. I chose not to mess with her hormones at this early stage and have worked on arming her with knowledge instead.

    Looking forward to this filter.

    How truly devastating for you and your DD.


 

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