I think it's really important to take a lot of pride in yourself and your personality. I've seen so many women who have turned into total grouches after marriage and children that I would be highly offended if my hubby didn't tell me something bothered him about me.
I usually go shopping with my hubby as he enjoys shopping and I hate it. He can spend hours going through clothing racks where as I skim the entire shop within 3 minutes and if I don't like it on the rack I won't try it on. My hubby can see what clothes will look like on and he's fantastic at choosing clothes that will show off my figure while also maintaining my 'style' in clothes. I think that probably comes from his love of fashion design and his dream to start his own brand one day.
Either way, my entire wardrobe is full of clothes that are my style. Most of them have been carefully selected from my hubby. I choose what I wear around the house and out in public based on what he likes to see and what's comfortable for me so we never really have any issues. If we go out for any reason my hubby will always ask that I choose what shirt he wears and it works for us. I was blessed with a hubby who has immaculate taste in clothes and I doubt all the female population has been as lucky as me.
When it comes to weight, I ask for my hubby to tell me if I start to lose my figure. Sure it's not something I want to hear, who wants to hear they're getting fat? BUT I must admit that when I did start getting a pudgy bum, he told me and I spent a week running around the block and it went back to normal. I would rather be told and have to work a little to get my figure back, than not be told at all and realise I'm fat and my hubby didn't tell me.
My hubby told me my thighs were getting thicker during my first trimester of pregnancy, that was something I SERIOUSLY did not want to know. It wasn't his fault, I asked him to tell me if I started getting fatter because I don't want to wear clothes that don't flatter my figure now that I'm pregnant. I did make sure I told him that next time I'm pregnant, not to tell me my thighs are getting thicker until mid to late second trimester.
Overall I think it's very important to have a relationship where you can be open and say what bothers you. If you know who it is you want to be as a person you should tell your partner this and ask him to let you know if you're slipping up. That's what I have done and it's really made our relationship a delight to be in.
I want my hubby to feel excited to come home and walk in the door and he does. Sure I get mad when he stays out an hour longer than what he said he would and dinner is a little dry from sitting in the warmer but when I take into account all that my hubby does do for me, a few slips up here and there aren't worth me getting angry at him and him not wanting to come home to me. It's not hard to slap on a false smile when you're mad, greet him with a hug and kiss and ask him how is day has been... That bad mood of yours will vanish over the next hour if you maintain a positive attitude. Being grumpy is contagious, as soon as you're grumpy everyone else is and there's really no need.