DH is great at giving me his brutal...ah, I mean... honest....opinions. When he does this, I have to admit that part of me wants to dig my heels in and NEVER change. But if I'm honest with myself, I only get offended by his comments when there is a grain of truth to them. I usually fire back with something I think he could improve, and agree to both change together if he wants to. I think this has actually been good for both of us in the past.