DP got me a car. Not the world's fanciest car - a $4500 car. My first car. On Wednesday, I have my test, and all going well, I pass... and now, I have a car to drive.
DP's been at the mines and earning a fair bit up there, as you tend to working at the mines... and he said he's up there for the both of us, so using some of the earnings to buy me a car is something he had intended to do the moment he realised he was earning so much. THe job has gone on longer than planned as well... so more money coming in that we had expected.
MIL though... is ignoring me. From what we can gather from conversations with FIL... it's because of the car. Because DP paid for a car for me. I also assume it has something to do with me not working... but she understands it's a bit of a catch 22. It would have been almost impossible for me to work with a partner at the mines most of hte time and no use of a car. It would relying on public transport (and where we are, it's really quite pathetic and limited) to get to and from work somehow, within daycare hours. Given I have no qualifications and pretty much nil experience... my chances aren't great. When I have looked for work, I haven't bene successful.
So this year, I'm studying... I'm studying now, already, but a uni degree that won't land me in a job anytime soon... so I'm going on a break from that, going back to do Beauty Therapy (already did 2 previous beauty courses but having not used my quals, means they've run out) and getting a job doing that... just to earn some money really. But to do this... I need a car. So now I've got one, and soon enough I'll be qualified and employed, I hope!
How is a car reason to ignore me though? They have been harrassing me to get a car and a licence for ages... but now that it's all kinda falling into place, I've done something wrong. I'm guessing she wanted me to somehow earn the money for a car myself... even though, as I said, I can't really earn until I have a job... and can't really get a job without a car/qualifications/experience (even Woolies/etc don't want me cos I'm not really 18 or whatever, and because not having a car gives me even more restricted working hours thanks to having to get to and from daycare on public transport... making what is a 5 min drive, a 1/2 hour bus trip, etc).
I have been having issues with my ILs lately anyway, and didn't want to see them, but DP stopped on the way home from getting me new glasses (I broke the buggers last night - right before my test! Smart move eh? lol)... to get his Dad to help him do something with my new car... so I had to see MIL cos she was there... ignoring me. Giving me 1 word answers to everything I said. Ignoring me hte rest of the time.
I am so over it. DP took me home and so we're waiting for her to go to work before we return so he and his father can do whatever it is to the car.
I'm so sick of it! It was okay for her to be a SAHM until all of her children finished high school... but it's not okay for me to get anything out of DP's earnings, apparently. I hate that I get treated like I'm some sort of vermin because he's spent money on me.
**Update Post 12 - the reason why she's ignoring me**