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    DH and I met in 2002 got together in 2005, started TTC in 2007 after a laparoscopy for endometriosis (it was a "now or never" situation) and finally fell with DD in 2009 after a second lap.

    Ie. Started TTC 5 years after we first met but only 18 months of officially being together.

    Fell pg 7 years after meeting; 3 and a half years after being together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    It takes a long time to truelly know a person which many couples I believe don't do before they have children and many relationships fail. Dh and I didn't live together for 5yrs. We then lived together for 7yrs in which time we worked hard and bought properties, our aim was to set ourselves up first. We were then ready for kids, we now have 2 boys and a comfortable very happy life. We often find ourselves councillors to friends who's relationships have failed.
    But the length of time you know someone doesn't always correlate to how well you know someone. Like Forkie said, you can only know someone as much as they want you to.

    My DH and I were engaged within 3 months of meeting. Does that mean we didn't/don't know each other? No. We talked an awful lot about our life, what we wanted for the future, family etc. Hell, we even talked politics on our first date which is normally a no-no! He knew me better in the first 6 months of our relationship than people who have known me for 20 years, and I him. We are always honest and open with each other, and that matters more than how long you have been together.

    So what worked for you, would not work for me. We have a wonderful 2yo DS and a DD coming in March and are coming up on our 5th Wedding Anniversary (together for 6) soon. It has been a whirlwind at times, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

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    was with dh 1.5 yrs before getting preg by accident.(17) feb will be our 6th yr together, 3rd married and hopefully get pg this yr-been trying for 18 months.


    My mum and dad got engaged ater 6 weeks of having met, and were married 9 months later when mum found out she was pg with my sister. Nov was their 27th anniversary

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    It takes a long time to truelly know a person which many couples I believe don't do before they have children and many relationships fail. Dh and I didn't live together for 5yrs. We then lived together for 7yrs in which time we worked hard and bought properties, our aim was to set ourselves up first. We were then ready for kids, we now have 2 boys and a comfortable very happy life. We often find ourselves councillors to friends who's relationships have failed.
    Sorry, but your grossly generalised post is wrong. My parents have been married 36 years & dote on each other like they met yesterday. My brother will be 36 this year. My folks met 6 months before marrying. I know many families like this.

    I believe you may be referring to people who ttc before being ready for it - every couple, & individual, reaches "ready" at a different point in their lives & their relationships. Perhaps you were slower than me & my DP, & we were slower than my parents.

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    We had been together 3 months when we had a 'scare' which turned out to be nothing but it got us talking about how nice that 'accident' would have been and officially started TTC about 3 months after that, so 6months in (we were engaged by that stage)
    That was 4.5 years ago and we are still trying

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    We were together for 5 years before we TTC, though we did have 2 accidental pregnancies (neither of which resulted in babies) before we TTC.

    I think that having kids together really shows you what a person is like- sometimes you think you know someone well, but you get to know them better once you have kids together

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    About 4 months into the relationship I fell pregnant, was semi planned. I went off the pill the month before, we both didn't think it would happen so quick engaged 1 month later, married 16 months after that!
    That was all 4 and a bit years ago now and we have bub #3 due in July
    Im with the other woman who have said when u now it's right, u just know.

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    Surprise bubba 2 years into our relationship, number 2 5 years into it and number 3 7 years and one year of marriage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by becandabub View Post
    Sorry, but your grossly generalised post is wrong. My parents have been married 36 years & dote on each other like they met yesterday. My brother will be 36 this year. My folks met 6 months before marrying. I know many families like this.

    I believe you may be referring to people who ttc before being ready for it - every couple, & individual, reaches "ready" at a different point in their lives & their relationships. Perhaps you were slower than me & my DP, & we were slower than my parents.
    That's so true actually.

    My aunty and uncle had only been together for 3 months before they got married, they were pregnant soon after. They went on to have 4 kids and have been together for over 30 years now .

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    engaged 3 weeks after dating, married having known each other 11 months, TTC after having known each other 12 months, and being married 1 month.
    Sadly it took 10 years for our first child on earth, and our next bellyfruit is now on the way.


 

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