My AP child knew that all of her needs where met, and some of her wants, when she needed them to be. She therefore blossomed into a beautifully confident and happily independent little girl who was excited to go off to school. Of course she's not APed whilst she's at school - they don't have the resources to respond to each and every child's needs as they come up. Thankfully she understands that at home her needs are met appropriately, she's treated like a human being and has a part in the decisions that concern her, and she always has a voice. This mitigates any damage that school not being able to meet her immediate needs might do.
**I am stating that I am categorically NOT commenting on anybody else's parenting here. When I state my child is treated like a human being, for example, I am *NOT* saying that other people don't treat theirs like humans. Only that we do.