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    I've only come to realise I raised DD this way, and honestly, at almost 9 she is confident enough to know that despite anything her mummy is there for her, we still share the bed most nights and she is my best buddy so we discuss everything in our lives with each other. To me it's the connection with that child and being there when they need you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    LOL I work in CC. That's not at all my experience. I've been in the school system before too. That was still not my experience at all.
    Yes have to agree. How children react to cc or school is all variable

    I would think having AP means creating a secure trusting bond between the child and parent. When trust is establish children will trust their parent will return at the end of the day.
    Like other posters have said your parenting changes as your children grows

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    Quote Originally Posted by ohdear View Post
    I have seen what happens to AP babies when live changes for what ever reason and they have to go to crèche its horrible, horrible for them and horrible for every other child in the room listening to them cry and scream all day long
    My friends son is like this and she has pretty much the opposite parenting style to AP.

    By the way, this thread is about school age children.

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    Quote Originally Posted by singlemumma82 View Post
    I've only come to realise I raised DD this way, and honestly, at almost 9 she is confident enough to know that despite anything her mummy is there for her, we still share the bed most nights and she is my best buddy so we discuss everything in our lives with each other. To me it's the connection with that child and being there when they need you.
    It's the same in our house, and our children are the same age.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ohdear View Post
    here is another over generalisation for everyone to jump on when not sharing the same opinion both children where from the same cultural background and screamed every day when not carried around all day

    that's not fair for anyone
    Quote Originally Posted by ohdear View Post
    here is another over generalisation for everyone to jump on when not sharing the same opinion both children where from the same cultural background and screamed every day when not carried around all day

    that's not fair for anyone
    Please correct me if I'm wrong, but are you forming an opinion of this philosophy based on your experience of a few children?

    Also, can you please explain what their cultural background has to do with it? Thanks

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    only commenting on what I have seen it was others that suggested that I was generalising, I am well aware that all children are different

    cultural background has a lot to do with how children are raised

    regardless of parenting style the whole point is to be their when your child needs you call it natural AP or what ever you like

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    Quote Originally Posted by ohdear View Post
    I have seen what happens to AP babies when live changes for what ever reason and they have to go to crèche its horrible, horrible for them and horrible for every other child in the room listening to them cry and scream all day long
    This sounds like a generalisation if you ask me ^^

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    Oh and people from a wide range of different cultures practice AP, which is why I was confused.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ohdear View Post
    here is another over generalisation for everyone to jump on when not sharing the same opinion both children where from the same cultural background and screamed every day when not carried around all day

    that's not fair for anyone
    A family friend has a little boy who screams when she leaves the room, and she is so not into AP.

    what is your understanding of AP, and why do you think it has affected those kids to cause this reaction? (not being sarcastic, or b!tchy, genuinely want to understand your thoughts in this)

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    I think that there's often the misconception that practicing AP creates clingy/needy children. This just isn't the case.

    I think some babies/children are more high needs than others - that's nature rather than nurture.

    I also think that in our society we tend to frown upon babies and children being needy, we make it a negative thing, we are told by many popular parenting "gurus" to deny our little ones needs in order to prevent bad habits forming or to stop them manipulating us. I don't geddit.

    In answer to the OP, yes, I subscribe to the AP approach, and my 6 and 4 year olds have had no trouble adjusting to school. They're socially confident and generally happy, healthy kids.

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