I wasn't really sure where to post, so sorry if I'm in the wrong spot.
So anyway, I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant. My ex left me a few weeks ago. We are having our first "chat" post break up and I'm sure we'll be discussing future scans/appts, the birth, then visitation and child support. So I have a few questions for all of you...
1) I don't think I am comfortable having him at scans (if he really wants to be there I will compromise on this) and definitely not comfortable having him at the birth. Is it OK for me to ask him to wait until after the birth, when all the nasty stuff is over with and I've spent some 1:1 time with bub to come to meet his child. I also have another child, and would really like for him to meet his brother/sister and have some family time first too, but I don't know if this is being unreasonable.
2) What sort of visitation is reasonable with a newborn? I was thinking 2 hrly supervised visits on a set day each week and gradully increasing to unsupervised and slightly longer visits once breastfeeding is fully esablished. If he would like to see the baby more often, I would try my best to accomodate this, provided he was willing to have the visits at my home, with me there. Does this sound reasonable? Also, my ex lives at the pub where he works, and I do not like the idea of my child being cared for in that environment. Can I specify that I would like visit elsewhere?
I'd also like for the child to spend occasions such as Xmas and Easter and birthdays with me, and the ex is Jahovas Witness and doesn't celebrate these things. Obviously I wouldnt stop him from seeing his child on these occasions (especially birthday) if he wishes.
3) If we can mutually agree to visitation, and child support, is there a way we can make this legally binding?
For those of you who have stuck it out and read through til the end of this, thank you. I will really appreciate your feedback.