Before you read this please understand that I know this is just an issue with me and not my SIL. (and if this is the wrong section than please move it mods)
My SIL and I have been best friends for over 15yrs(thats how I ended up meeting and marrying DH).We love eachother to bits and share everything. Our relationship has not changed even after becoming sils.
Our bubs are 2 months apart ( her DS is 2months older than my DD). Well my DD has had colic and silent reflux since 3wks age, has been a teribble sleeper and very hard to settle even after colic and reflux are better,now she has developed eczema!. I havnt been able to go out on my own and enjoy myself (like movie ,etc) as DD doesnt stay settled long enough with DH.
SILs DS hasnt had any of these issues.no colic,no reflux,has slept through the night since 4weeks of age,falls asleep on his on.Shes been going out to dinners,partys,etc since he was born as her DH could easily look after him.
Everytime I share all the issues with DD,she does console me but than also mentions how easy her DS is to manage .
I know shes not praising her bub to make me jealous and telling me all the fun shes had going out ,etc is just her sharing her experiences with me as a best friend. But now, for the first time in my life, I feel INTENSELY jealous of her !!! Mainly why have I had it so hard with EVERYTHING, where as she has had it so easy . I'm very thanful that DD is otherwise a hapy healthy baby and maybe I'm being irrational...but all this resentment is effecting my feeling toward sil. usually we would msg (if not call) eachother daily,multiple times. But now I dont feel like msging her and only reply to any msgs she sends.
Shes a good friend and a great sil...but I CANT GET RID OF THIS JEALOUSY AND RESENTMENT !!!! DH thinks im being totally unreasonable ( thanks honey like I didnt already know that!!). What do I do ?? I cant talk to sil about this...she has done nothing wrong and it'll just hurt her .. I'm just so frustrated,confused ...and miserable