I have always had abit of a concern regarding our gorgeous (almost) 3 year old son's language skills. I have seen doctors, spoken to other professionals and none of them showed any concern. We heard thing's like "he is a boy, his an only child, his the first grandchild, nephew etc, I am a younger Mum and don't have alot of friends with kids so he isn't exposed to other kids on a regular, he knows his colours, body parts, how to read numbers etc, and talking age isn't until 3-4 years" I heard all these things often and was reassured it wasn't a problem. I got told the best thing to do was to put him into preschool and his language will start to develop almost immediatly.
SO Ds started preschool on Monday. His loving it. Hardly an sepearation anxiety at all, wakes up excited for it and seems very happy. He loves being around other kids. However, on day 1 they scheduled a meeting with myself and DP in regards to his speech. We had this meeting this morning.
We were handed a document of results from DS speech assesment they performed on him the day before. They never told me they were going to assess him-I did find that a little annoying, but no biggy. In a nutshell we were told by the owner of the preschool that he is "WAY behind in speech development" My DP has a problem with the word WAY behind and immediatly became defensive. I know he is feeling a combination of anger, guilt, denial and that feeling all us parents have that 'our perfect child isn't perfect'. DS has been referred to immediate speech therapy as they don't want his social skills being affected. DS despearatly wants to join in with other kids, try's too, but doesn't understand so walks away and entertains himself. This worries them as they don't want his social skills to regress.
I'll get to the point now - DP is feeling pretty down. I tried explaning that speech therapy is not a deadly diagnosis, he isn't stupid (not that DP thinks he is stupid, but he is worried the preschool teachers thinks DS is) that this is very common and we are getting help at a really crucial time before school starts etc. He is just so down..
How do I explain this to him? to ease his feelings? to show him that we weren't being attacked?
Any suggestions/advice would be appreciated!!