We have a pair of friends who we love to bits and get along really well with but when it comes to our respective parenting choices we are pretty much worlds apart.
Now that doesn't bother me in the slightest and I would never say anything judgemental or offensive as I believe parenting is a very personal thing and each to their own.
But unfortunately, they do not seem to extend the same courtesy to us.
There are a few issues that they seem to keep pushing and pushing that are really starting to offend both DH & I.
- We have 2 sons (with another on the way) and they have 3 girls. When we are over at their place of course our sons are going to be playing with 'girl' toys. We do not have a problem with this whatsoever and infact never try and push the 'boy' stereotyping onto them. For some reason tho, they always seem to make a point of our eldest son in particular, dressing up in princess dresses, playing with the dollhouse etc etc Do they expect him to sit in the corner and watch the girls have all this fun? And honestly what does it matter anyway???? He is a bloody kid!!!! They have no idea there are 'boy' toys and 'girl' toys! They have total double standards anyway seeing as they have no problem with their girls playing with trucks and dinosaurs etc. Go figure that one!
- Another big issue is breastfeeding vs bottlefeeding. I chose to breastfeed my children and will do the same with belly bub. She chose to bottlefeed all of hers from birth. Whilst I don't understand why someone would choose to bottlefeed, I respect that it is her choice and i have never judged her or made any sort of negative comment. Her on the other hand, thinks that it is perfectly acceptable to indirectly and directly insult my choice to breastfeed.
- The last big issue is public vs private education for the kids. We will be sending our kids to private highschool when the time comes and they will be sending theirs to public highschool. Again, not something I fully understand but whatever, that's their choice and it has zero impact on us. Again tho, they think it is open slather to bag us out for being 'hoity toity' and 'fancy' and 'snobby' and 'silly for wasting our money when private is no better than public' blah blah blah They also seem to bag us out personally as we both went to a private highschool and they didn't. I just don't see how our decision affects them at all and why they would feel the need to bring it up at all??? And it's not like it is something that has only been brought up once, it has been several times all at their instigation.
We have decided that if the topics come up again (and no doubt they will) we are just gonna say that we shouldn't have to justify our choices just like we never make you justify yours and hopefully that will be the end of it
In the end, *we* do what we feel is best for *our* kids and they do what they feel is best for theirs. Neither is right or wrong, it is what it is... now to just get that across to them....
Wow that turned into a bigger vent than I thought, but it feels good to have gotten it out. Thanks if you got to the end