I really need some advice about handling my husbands family. My Dh and i have had some fights but have managed to deal with things. Recently he told his aunty about our problems and she told his entire family. Now, they are all on his side and make phone calls to him on his mobile and send him e-mails asking how things are. I have told him right from the start I don't want our problems aired. I went away to stay with friends for a bit, came back and we have started therapy. I have told him I don't want to see them for a while and he has agreed. He asked if he could take our son over there one day for lunch and I agreed(I didn't go). It would be excellent if I never had to go over to the in laws place again. Do you think I could make some kind of arrangement with Dh and his family that DH and son go over there while I have time to myself? I can't stand the thought right now of being surrounded by people who think that their son is a star and I am someone with problems. Can you believe his mum tried to tell him and me she thinks i have PND? Our GP and therapist disagreed with this 'diagnosis'.
Also, his mum CONFESSED that she thought I was too pushy and put her son down too much but never said anything because I was his choice.
Now can you see why I don't want to be a 'guest' in their home?:I feel that she has basically said to my face that she never liked me but has kept a civil face. I too have felt terrible about her but have said nothing to her face. (even though I had a chance to when she 'came out about her feelings'- I was so shocked).
MY Question is: Is it reasonable for me to tell him that I will not ever be visiting his family but he is free to see them anytime he wishes?
How do I explain this to them in a non-confrontational way:?(or do I get him to)
I would appreciate your views on my situation