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    Thanks everyone, I am thinking of studying but not sure what yet. I am also thinking of learning piano maybe, something I always wanted to do. I know I don't need a man to make me happy but it's just hard feeling like this.

    I love my kids but I hate being just a mum, I am a human being. I have no hobbies etc. I wish things were different. If I had a time machine I'd use it to go back in time and not have kids so young and not have them to a ********* man.
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    And it hasn't just been this past year and a bit that I have felt lonely or felt like a single mum, as some of you know, even with ex I often felt this way. Having someone who loves me and all that isn't much to ask I don't think. I'm sick of men and their bullsh!t.

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    I would rather be single than be with an *******.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mum2bubba View Post
    Thanks everyone, I am thinking of studying but not sure what yet. I am also thinking of learning piano maybe, something I always wanted to do. I know I don't need a man to make me happy but it's just hard feeling like this.

    I love my kids but I hate being just a mum, I am a human being. I have no hobbies etc. I wish things were different. If I had a time machine I'd use it to go back in time and not have kids so young and not have them to a ********* man.


    I think you really should get to know yourself and find some hobbies (like the one you mentioned). It seems like you base your happiness on other people. You need to find happiness within yourself

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    You need counselling. You really do need to work through all these feelings. You can't take a positive step forward if you don't. You owe it to yourself and your children.

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    As much as I love my son. I have him 24/7/365.
    In no way do I want to be with his da again but sometimes I just wish I could have dinner with no tantrums, watch big people tv and go to bed with no hassles. The joys of a 2 yr old! Single or partnered neither has it better or worse. Both have pros and cons who knows I could want the same thing even with a partner to share the load

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    my Df took me and my 6 kids on. we are now planning our wedding and expecting one together. there are men out there that will want you kids and all

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    I agree... there are some lovely men out there who are willing to take on a single mum with lots of kids... but to quote Tootsie "I just don't find those kind of men attractive". I've found that most men my age (early 40s) are single for a really good reason...I also think I'm too fussy now - I couldn't be bothered with anybody and their tiny faults because I put with somebody who had hundreds of those tiny faults for 7 years.. I think, sadly, I'd rather be alone and rely on myself than live with somebody and 'their' problems...my ex put me off men for life.

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    Hobbies and sports are a great way to meet people (not just men!). It would be hard if you ex never has the kids, do you have much family around?You would be surprised how many men don't care if you have kids also, often they will have 1-2 of their own so know the deal when it comes to single mums Keep your chin up!

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    Real happiness comes from within, you won't find in your next relationship.

    Hobbies, counseling, friendships are probably your best course of action.

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    hi mum2bubba, you need to start reading good books, positive uplifting stories. If you can get into some study this year then go for it, but in the mean time you need to find some happiness in yourself. You were miserable with G and now you are finding yourself miserable on your own, you have to change your outlook. Take control of your life, do what will make you happy. I think you need to work through your whole life with a councellor, I think you are still wanting your mother to love you, that would be a good starting point. Im sorry if I upset you, but I can tell from what you have shared, over the years, there is a lot of issues that you have not dealt with. I would suggest starting with Motherless Daughters, by Hope Endelman, I found this book a help to me. hugs, Marie.

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