+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 25
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Posts
    21,787
    Thanks
    566
    Thanked
    301
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts

    Default Being a single mum sucks

    Before I dumped G's backside, I thought I could do the whole single mum gig, don't have to worry about having a douchebag man tell me what to do, I can do what I want, blah,blah, blah...but I hate it. Sure there are good things, but I am sick of being lonely, but having three children what man in his right mind would ever want to be with me now? When I was with ex at least I could leave the kids and go out with friends (ok it meant the house looked like a tip when I got home and the kids weren't bathed or whatever) but I got 'me time' my kids don't go to their dad's every second weekend like they used to because of an avo against him, so I am them 24/7. Skye is living with her aunty (long story which I don't wish to get into or be judged for right this moment) I still see her and pay for her and have two other kids to care for full time. I get a break (if I am lucky) about once every few months. It sucks and I am over it!!!!

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Posts
    21,787
    Thanks
    566
    Thanked
    301
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Anyone else hate being a single mother?

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    Brissy
    Posts
    14,419
    Thanks
    546
    Thanked
    600
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Past Moderator - Thank you
    I hate being married and feeling single, i have a parent child relationship with DH, can't really leave him with the kids or have 'me' time either due to his ABI. What plans will you make this year to improve things? Perhaps a part time job or volunteering at your DD's school might help and meet some new people?

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    437
    Thanks
    85
    Thanked
    32
    Reviews
    0
    There are men out there that accept a woman & her children. My son is engaged to a woman with 3 kids, husbands uncle married & became step-dad to 4 children. I know another woman who has 4 children & is engaged and expecting a 5th with her new man so, please don't think no-one would want you. In the meantime, nurturing yourself and trying to find ways to get out amongst people again such as a part-time job or volunteering as V8 suggested might be good.

  5. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Brunfelsia Dreaming For This Useful Post:

    Izy  (17-01-2012),jemmajam  (22-01-2012),laurea  (09-01-2012)

  6. #5
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    14,057
    Thanks
    1,875
    Thanked
    2,608
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    I'm not a single mum, so please forgive me for posting in here. I felt I needed to though.
    Hun, I really think you need to see someone about the feelings you are experiencing.

  7. The Following User Says Thank You to Guest1234 For This Useful Post:

    Buttoneska  (09-01-2012)

  8. #6
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Posts
    8,245
    Thanks
    1,772
    Thanked
    2,017
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a weekBusiest Member of the Week - Most posts for the week ended 19/6/2014
    I think there are ups and downs to being both partnered and being single. If you had of stayed with your ex do you think you would be happy?
    I agree that isolation and lonlieness of being a single mum does become somewhat tedious at times but in the grand scheme of things it's a million times better than being stuck in a bad relationship.
    I think the key is to get out there and do something so you aren't stuck at home with the kids 24/7 in that same boring rut.
    Have you thought about studying or getting some part time work? It would break up your week and give you some variety. I personally need to do something with my time otherwise i start to go stir crazy.

  9. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to HarvestMoon For This Useful Post:

    Izy  (17-01-2012),jemmajam  (22-01-2012),laurea  (09-01-2012)

  10. #7
    Join Date
    Dec 2010
    Posts
    34
    Thanks
    21
    Thanked
    45
    Reviews
    0
    I can understand the whole loneliness thing, it's often really really hard however you would much prefer to be in a relationship with someone you now have an AVO against ? That caused you so much grief beforehand & would mistreat you & your kids ? Is that really the life you want for your kids ?

    As for never finding anyone, well that isn't true. Having kids probably helps weed out all the complete idiots around who aren't worth your time anyways.

    You need to focus on you, why is it such a big deal you ' find someone '. No one else will ever make you happy that is on your own shoulders & something worth maybe going & doing counselling about so that you have someone to talk to & to build your confidence & self worth back up.

    I wouldn't say being a single mum is always awesome but I would definitely not want to be where I was a number of years ago because it was downright miserable. Times get tough & I don't get a break from mine either, I have them 24/7 with little to no help but we are mostly happy & I have surrounded us with those who care enough to be in our lives.

  11. The Following 7 Users Say Thank You to Nova For This Useful Post:

    Buttoneska  (09-01-2012),delirium  (30-01-2012),Guest1234  (09-01-2012),Izy  (17-01-2012),laurea  (09-01-2012),Maia  (09-01-2012),shelle65  (09-01-2012)

  12. #8
    Join Date
    Sep 2011
    Posts
    1,277
    Thanks
    3,305
    Thanked
    466
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
    Last edited by laurea; 07-02-2012 at 13:20.

  13. #9
    Join Date
    Mar 2008
    Posts
    6,728
    Thanks
    663
    Thanked
    862
    Reviews
    15
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts


    Having kids wont mean you wont ever have another relationship. I have 2 boys and have been happily re-partnered for over a year. Spend the time you have single, focusing on yourself and your kids, try a new hobby, or start attending a new playgroup. I know it's hard and sometimes doesn't seem fair, but your doing a great job.

  14. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Littlemissmetal For This Useful Post:

    Benji  (16-01-2012),Guest1234  (09-01-2012),Izy  (17-01-2012),laurea  (10-01-2012)

  15. #10
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    Location
    Wishart, Qld
    Posts
    694
    Thanks
    28
    Thanked
    46
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by V8 View Post
    I hate being married and feeling single, i have a parent child relationship with DH, can't really leave him with the kids or have 'me' time either due to his ABI. What plans will you make this year to improve things? Perhaps a part time job or volunteering at your DD's school might help and meet some new people?
    I was just about to say this... when I was married I felt like a single mother.. my exhusband and I had a parent/child relationship as well!

    Personally.. for me life is easier without him lying (in both senses) around the house.. sure two wages were easier, we'd have bought a house by now etc etc.. and yep I get lonely as well but overall if I had to go back to THAT life with him I'd probably top myself.. I was so close to walking out with or without the kids when married it was terrible. Now it's just me and the kids.. it's very stressful but at the end of the day it's me that gets the 'I love you's' from the children when they go to sleep and when they wake.. their father misses so much with them.. so many milestones (and doesn't seem bothered btw).. you're better off alone I believe. I don't need a man messing up my life and stressing me out.

  16. The Following User Says Thank You to murrythecat For This Useful Post:

    laurea  (10-01-2012)


 

Similar Threads

  1. So...... this sucks.......
    By V8 in forum Single Parents
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 24-08-2012, 07:16
  2. My life sucks
    By wantmore in forum Single Parents
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 31-01-2012, 12:56

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Softmats
With so many amazing reversible designs, the soft and cushioned Premium Bubba Mats are the perfect space for all the family. Not only do they look fantastic; you can also enjoy the quality and comfort for years to come.
sales & new stuffsee all
Pea Pods
Buy 2 Award Winning Pea Pods Reusable One Size Nappies for only $38 (in your choice of colours) and receive a FREE roll of Bamboo Liners. Don't miss out, we don't usually have discounts on the nappies, so grab this special offer!
Special Offer! Save $12
featured supporter
Cryosite Family Cord Blood & Tissue Bank
Cryosite has been providing Cord Blood Banking services for over 12 years, and is the trusted choice of Australian families. To discuss the benefits of banking your baby's cord blood & tissue stem cells call us on 1800 220 410.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!