I've just about had it with some 'friends' in our lives. They invite us over for lunch/dinner, but the kids are made to stay outside. This is fine if the weather's mild and plenty of drinks and snacks are left out, but we've had people to this to us in 40 degree heat or pouring rain. When we casually mention that the kids would be better off inside, they reply with "There is 6 of them!" Usually we find an excuse to leave as soon as possible as our kids are miserable and we are offended.
I would never invite people over in those type of conditions and expect their children to stay outside. My children are noisy (try and find 6 kids together who are quiet), but they are not the sort of kids to trash a place, and we always clean up before we go. These people generally only have 1 or 2 children and so cringe at any further children entering their precious home.
I am sick and tired of being treated like outcasts when we visit these people. Unfortunately, due to work or family connections, they are not people we can just cut from our lives, but neither should we have to put up with this sort of treatment.
We've tried meeting up in a neutral place, but keeping an eye on 6 kids in a park is not easy. And we are sick and tired of these people always expecting to come to our house. Why should I put up with their kids messing up my place and be the one to always be cleaning up afterwards?
Have any of you other large families experienced this kind of social exclusion, and how did you handle it?