I had menopause at 22 (I’m now 35); my early menopause was brought on after having chemo and radio therapy for Leukemia when I was 21. Obviously I’ve known for years that I’d never be able to have my own children. About 4 years ago hubbie and I decided to look into the options to have a child and that’s when we were put on an anonymous donor list. After three years of waiting and still getting no were near the top of the list, our lovely friend offered to be our donor. Sadly, that didn’t work out as none of her eggs fertilized, it was extremely upsetting when this happened, we all thought it was meant to be, she’d been in a really serious car crash the year before which nearly killed her, she had a broken back and a head injury, she felt she’d survived to help us have a child.. But it wasn’t to be, it took me a year to get over how upset I was (the situation wasn’t helped by the fact that we were treating badly by the clinic with many things being done wrong).
A few months ago our friend offered to help us again; she’d had to work through some stuff and was ready to help us again, the very same week I had a call from the clinic to say that we were on top of the donor list! My husband and I really hadn’t talked about the baby thing again, it was something we were trying to move on from believing that we wouldn’t ever become parents. But then, when your best friend offers to help you and you get a call about an anonymous donor all in the same week; fate has got to be intervening somehow. As our friend had poor quality eggs the first time we decided to go with the anonymous donor to try again.
Soo, I spent my Christmas and New Year waiting to kill people (hormones) getting my body ready, our donor egg was fertilized on Wednesday and the embryo was inserted yesterday (horrible experience due to my womb tilting backwards). It’s bloody fantastic that after nearly 4 years something is finally happening!
Just wanted to share this with someone! As we had a sad outcome last time we tried we have decided not to tell anyone what’s been happening in the last few weeks. I haven’t even told my Mum, which is very hard; I want to be able to tell her I’m pregnant when I next see her (she lives in the UK). My hubbie and I will celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary next month; I hope our present is pregnancy! Keeping everything crossed..