+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 2 of 2
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    5
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    0
    Reviews
    0

    Default Mater Mothers South Brisbane and prejudice?

    i will be delivering baby number 2, hopefully through VBAC, at Mater Mothers in South Brisbane around February..

    im hispanic and found i got a bit "left out" last time with midwives and nurses at the hospital my first time around, they werent nice at all, first nurse got angry at me because my waters broke and then they checked and she told me they hadnt broken at all, which made me feel like i was wasting her time.. but when i stood up my waters gushed out AGAIN and she kind of was buggered about it all, yet she was so much nicer and laughing and smiling with the other lady next door who was caucasian..

    at the time my contractions were the hardest some doctor came in, chuckled and said "aww poor thing" and made a stupid joke about how glad hes a male whilst im crying in pain!!! .. it really peeved me off, when it was decided i needed a cesarean the nurse plonked all this paperwork here, i tried to read it, she rolled her eyes and pretty much "summarised" what was on it so i could quickly just sign it and she could be off.. then at time of my cesarean i decided to get some sleep and one of the two male nurses said "boo" when my partner was cutting my DD cord and i woke up to them sniggering until one of them said "aww that wasnt nice" to the other.. the midwife nurse i had after the experience was worse, she kept getting angry at me as if i was a professional midwife that knew what to do.. i wont get into details with the other nurse i had but it was a very horrible experience for me.. i felt vulnerable and alone, and wanted to take my baby with me asap, although some nurses were very friendly and nice, the other ones never really changed their atitude towards me, as if they didnt like me from the start and didnt bother to change their minds about me..

    did anyone else find this kind of prejudice in the hospital?? perhaps i might be going a little overboard by saying racism, but i found that my caucasian friends had better experiences in the hospital than my asian, darker skinned friends and I.. perhaps i was just a nuisance and in peoples way although i dont think i was at all, i tried to be as nice to everyone and tried to hold my head up high but now im just scared it will be the same again this time around..

    im also sorry in advance if i start some kind of controversy here, but this was MY experience and this is the first time ive mentioned it since it happened. im also not the type of person to lash out at people, tell them off or swear, i usually keep things inside which i know is bad but i just try to deal with it, which is probably why its taken my almost 3 years to talk about this horrible birthing experience..

  2. #2
    headoverfeet's Avatar
    headoverfeet is offline The truth will set you free, but first it will **** you off. -Gloria Steinem
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    18,954
    Thanks
    3,142
    Thanked
    4,892
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    I'm sorry you had an experience like that can I ask if you have ever spoke to someone about it? A councillor I mean? Also, do you think it is a good idea to go back to the same place you were abused last time? Is there another birth option for you?


 

Similar Threads

  1. Mater Mothers Private Brisbane?
    By PuppyGuts in forum Seeking a Maternity Hospital
    Replies: 14
    Last Post: 27-01-2012, 02:31
  2. Mater Mothers South Brisbane (Public)
    By Bambaloo in forum Pregnancy & Birth General Chat
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 11-01-2012, 17:16

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Einsteinz Music
Make music at Einsteinz Music in age-appropriate class in Sydney's Inner West, Eastern Suburbs or North Shore. For ages 6 mths - 4 yrs. All music is live! Christmas Gift certificates available for full term or casual classes. Call 0431 338 143
sales & new stuffsee all
CarmelsBeautySecrets
Growing your own natural nails is easy. Years ago, I devised a simple and very effective technique which really helps boosts the nails' growth in as little as three days! And most importantly keeps them that way.
featured supporter
Pea Pods Reusable Nappies
Pea Pods are the smart choice when it comes to choosing what's best for you, your baby and the environment. Affordable and simple to use, Pea Pods keep your baby dry & happy. Visit our website to find your nearest stockist or order online.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!