My father lives in victoria, we see him every 5 or so years.
My brother and his wife are 15 minutes away, and have been for the last 6 years. My brother has been here twice, both brief visits. His wife has never been here. I have no help from them ever, not even to collect mail or put my bin out while we're away.
My little brother is 2 hours away, and lives with his gf. They are both nice, pretty chilled, easy to get along with, but no, no help from them.
My mum is also 2 hours away. I have made a mess of my house, shifting furniture, sorting clothes, shoes, movies, books, toys, you can imagine my lounge. I can hear the lecture already if she could see it!
No, no help, just a whole lot of criticism even from afar.