This is quite embarrassing so I can't talk to anyone IRL about this as yet... I guess this is more of a vent or seeking assurance that this isn't just us and that we aren't 'those freaky people'....please....!
So our DS is 4mths old and we've yet to DTD....in fact we haven't DTD since I was 5 months pregnant
This is NOT by my choice either, I love and miss $ex in my life. My DH just has no desire and hasn't for years now. It all started when some medication he was on affected his libido and 'lasting power'. This in turn wrecked his confidence and he lost all sexual desire. For past 3-4 years whenever we have DTD it has been out of necessity or me nagging him for weeks. It's then over in 1min which upsets him even further and I'm left lying wondering why we bothered
Consequently the $ex therefore is not interesting/pleasurable now anyway. I've now given up trying or talking about it because nothing changes so what's the point (offered counseling, made moves myself etc). But all of a sudden it's nearly 12 months and I'm freaking out as ppl always say a marriage can't be happy or last without a $ex life. We don't have one, period. I'm wondering if witnessing my not so pleasant birth had made it worse? My Ob made him watch the episiotomy and I know that freaked him out - can you blame him?!
Everything else in our life together is wonderful. He's very loving and considerate in other ways, is a fantastic hubby and father. He just doesn't.want.$ex.ever.
Has anyone else experienced this and still had a happy marriage? He is my soul mate and I'm willing to live without $ex if it means everything else in our lives 'works' together. I do miss it and the intimacy, I can't lie, but what else can I do? please someone tell me I'm not alone...the stereotype is the other way around, men usually love $ex we are always told.
We both have medical conditions that means we have to rely on IVF for our family, so he even gets out of it there too...