Mil has never liked me cos DF is an only child and she feels like I stole him away. I've always had to put up with snide remarks and interfering which I mostly tried to turn a blind eye to so as not to cause probs with DF.
It all came to a head at the beginning of last year tho when she came to pick DS up as she was looking after him while I went to work. It was like she came looking for a fight and kept going on about our finances and how much money DF owes her (it's always about money with her) and I just said to her I really don't want to hear it. She wouldn't stop, and this was all in front of DS (who was about 18 months at the time) so I told her that if she didn't calm down she wouldn't be taking DS anywhere. Well, then she lost it, lunged at me smacked me in the head, scratched the side of my face and had her hands around my throat, again all in front of DS. I shoved her off me but never lay a hand on her back. Although I felt like it, I would never do that in front of my son. By this stage, DS was screaming and crying and I yelled at her to get the f... out of my house and that she would never see any of us again!!!
She was screaming, calling me every name under the sun, telling me that she was gonna make DF leave me, that she'd take DS and I'd never see him again!! I was a mess, called DF at work and made him come home.
Of course, she lied when confronted and said that I'd said awful things to her to 'make' her attack me. We didn't see them for about 2 months but during that time DF was miserable and we fought constantly and came very close to breaking up. He just couldn't fathom cutting ties with his patents.
To cut an even longer story short, after lots of thinking and soul searching on my own, I decided that in order to save my relationship, I had to be the bigger person. So I emailed DF's dad, telling him that I didn't wanna argue or bring up the past or anything, that we all just needed to move on. It killed me in some ways as I still can't believe she did it, but I knew deep down I would have lost DF otherwise.
Since then, things with DF have been great as he respects and loves me so much for being the bigger person and putting an end to it all. And he no longer turns a blind eye to mil's snide remarks and antics and defends me and our family. She has been a lot better too. Some things she says and does still annoy me but I have learnt to choose my battles. I just wish she wouldn't see me as competition, and rather that we both love DF.
Sorry for the long post guys :-)
Um. You win!