First off just a little insight into why my hubby and I are embarking on this journey of hopefully one day having a child.
I was born with a congenital heart condition (Pulmonary Artesia) so all my life I’ve learnt to have limitations to what kind of things I could do physically. No running, participation in competitive sports and even watching that a small scratch/sore does not become infected. The hardest thing I learnt to have to deal with came about 19 years ago when the doctor’s decided I was at the age where they should tell me about children. My heart is not strong enough for me to carry a baby. It’s too much of a risk for me to take.
It took me many years and heart breaks along the way to finally accept what the doctors had told me. I found myself a man who already had children so I wouldn’t be made to feel guilty that I couldn’t give him a family. I married this beautiful, supportive man, we live our lives like every other person work, pay bills and we travelled overseas (would love to do more overseas trips). We’ve celebrated births of our friends and families children. I have even witnessed the birth of a friends child, and what an amazing experience.
It wasn’t until towards the end of 2010 when the surrogacy laws changed here in Queensland, that my dream of becoming a mummy could turn into a reality. I never let that dream slip away. A beautiful friend had always said she would be my surrogate mum when the laws came in. It was a very surreal day when her and her husband actually offered to do it for us. Never in our wildest dreams did we ever think the journey was going to be so stressful ... I went through the IVF process to get little embryos on ice and did the 6 month waiting, went through the legals, and councelling and some more waiting. Finally, the day came when we could try a transfer ... 4 transfers later and still no bub . My friend is now not longer able to help due to some medical issues.
Hopefully 2012 will bring us a better luck