Interesting thread here.. My daughter has been through kindy and is starting school this year. She has been bullied.. Then accused of being the bully as a result of physically retaliating.. She would keep getting told to go away and that they didn't want up play with her (two little boys that she was friends with) I told her to ignore them and play with someone else or to tell her teacher. She did all those things first. I also mentioned the situation to her teacher. Was ok for a while... Then hear from a parent that my child is a 'bruiser' and likes to bully the boys! Well I was not happy... The mother of the little boy teasing my daughter had dobbed my child in to the teacher because he'd teased her so much she'd taken matters into her own hands and pushed him, knocked him clean on his ***!
God I was angry...
I did have words with my daughter about pushing though and she got quite upset about the whole thing. I still said it wasn't the best thing that happened but that I want her to protect herself when she is being beaten down verbally!
Hubby and I have now enrolled her into a ruldolf Steiner school so I'm much more relaxed about her not attending a mainstream school where she would get lost in the system ... Big sigh if relief!!