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    1. Does your OH complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?

    He would complain if I made things he doesn't like, which is a lot. Therefore I guess he doesn't have to request what he wants to eat because he already gets it.


    2. How much does your OH "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.

    No, I can't remember the last time he did the dishes or washing. Might sweep the floor once in a blue moon. I'm a SAHM so its all up to me, always.


    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your OH. For example your OH goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from OH and OH staying home looking after kids?

    DH doesn't do things with mates really, I think we are even on this one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Janesmum123 View Post
    I have a few question for you guys. I'm trying to sort out a few past issues with a certain someone and would like to know how things work for other people.

    1. Does your OH complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?

    DP cooks in our place LOL he is a far better cook than I, but i do cook some nights when he really wants me to.

    2. How much does your OH "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.

    His cooking helps me out heaps as 1. his cooking always tastes better and 2 i'm busy feeding, bathing & putting DS to bed around the same time that DP likes to have dinner. he also does the dishes most days and we do the some of the clothes washing together, but i do everything else as i get a little obsessed with having spottless flows, benches, bedrooms, bathrooms etc.

    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your OH. For example your OH goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from OH and OH staying home looking after kids?

    We have both "Me" and "Our" time, the "Me" time may not be the same, i know DP gets a lot more time out but i'm happy with the time i get. But I always have DS settled to sleep for his day naps before i go out as he never goes down for DP. the "our" time, we take 1 day off a month, drop DS off at his nans after his breakfast then pick him up before dinner, this helps us a lot
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    1. Does your OH complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?

    no. He has never complained about the food I cook..he always eats what I cook and always says thank you for cooking dinner after I often ask him if their is anything in particular he would like for dinner, mostly he just tells me to cook whatever I want to make.

    2. How much does your OH "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.

    Im the cleaner of the house..I actually like being the one who takes care of the house work..If I ask him to help he will though with no complainging. Plus he works full time and he also takes care of the garden stuff.


    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your OH. For example your OH goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from OH and OH staying home looking after kids?

    If DH or I wanted to go catch up with friends that would be fine and DH would not complain.

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    1 he loves everything I cook though he's a chef so he cooks more than I do anyway

    2 he does the dishes n helps general tidy but that's about it he could do alot. More

    3 I get me time every morning when he takes DS for a bike ride n I put DD Down for sleep we don't really go out though would be nice to


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    1. No he doesn't usually complain, but sometimes he will. Best quote ever:
    Me: "Do you like the soup"
    DH: "yes...but it's like something I would expect if it was wartime"

    I don't usually cook things I know he doesn't like though - eg. Pasta, curries.

    2. No he absolutely does not help. I've given up nagging him and just accept if I want a clean house I have to do it all. I don't mind doing more than half as i am at home 3 days a week more than he is but I do it ALL. I ask him to help with the dishes a couple of times a week but that's it. Last night we had a massive argument about how he hates feeling pressured to clean, I was sooooo p!ssed as he doesn't do any and I don't even ask him to help anymore anyway. It's a source of growing resentment and a real issue in our marriage. I feel like his maid.

    3. I can go out when I want but I don't. I'm a homebody. I might go out without DS every few months. DH goes out without me a few times a week. I guess I could do that if I wanted but it wouldn't feel right to me to leave DS so much.


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    Dh eats everything I eat. If he doesnt like something he will tell me but he's never rude and rarely fussy. He would like more red meat (etc steaks) but he knows he has to cook that himself if he wants it! He will occasionally cook us tea.... And he's a pretty good cook when he can be bothered!

    Dh does nothing around the house without me asking. I am happy to do most of the cleaning as long as I'm not picking up after him - eg dishes not left lying around, socks to go into the wash! We are still working on this but he's getting better. I usually get him to help me clean once a week eg "babe, I'm doing the washing, could you please tidy the lounge / do the dishes" or whatever it may be.

    Me time. Hmmmm. I feel he gets more than I do but that's more of my choice I think. He has no issue with me going out (by out I mean dinner with the girls, I don't go out drinking) I just rarely do it.


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    Nope, not at all, he doesn't like fruit in savory dishes so we don't go there when he is home.

    I don't think he has scrubbed a toilet since I became a sahm, which is fine with me, he will do the floors, washing or dishes though, esp now that he is home half the time.

    We take turns with me time and sleeping in.

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    1. Does your OH complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?
    Nope. He never complains about the food I cook and he doesn't ask me to make anything that'll take a long time. He does most of the cooking but we always cook things that are quick and easy. After DS goes to bed, we like to have as much quality time as possible AKA sitting on the couch and watching TV & surfing the net lol

    2. How much does your OH "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.
    He always helps with everything. Everything we do is 50/50. He helps with cooking, washing dirty laundry, hanging up those clothes, cleaning the house & he does grocery shopping as well. He prefers doing it without me because I always rush it and stress out hahah

    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your OH. For example your OH goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from OH and OH staying home looking after kids?[/QUOTE]
    He likes having me go out to see friends once a week or more if I choose to. I want him to do the same. He plays soccer every Friday night & we have friends over on a regular basis. I think it's important so you don't "lose" yourself and lose each other. It's nice to be able to get away and not be mum or dad for a night.

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    1. Does your OH complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?
    Umm, sort of. My DH and I are both chefs (we don't work as chefs anymore), but he hates cooking and reckons he has forgotten how to. So I do most of the cooking - he will sometimes not like something I make. But he doesn't really care about food and never outright complain, he would eat anything I dish up. But yeh, sometimes he doesn't like it and he requests meals that are complicated and cakes etc. But he doesn't request things I can't make, but things that take more effort and mostly I CBF with it.

    2. How much does your OH "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.
    Yep, my DH does all the washing (we have just negotiated that I will now put it away once he was washed it because he doens't put it away how I like). He takes care of outside (we have 8acres) and whenever I clean inside he tends to help without asking or if I ask. I will do 80% of it but he will always help with the bins, tidying etc. He never cleans up after dinner which sh1ts me, but lately I have been trying hard to keep the house clean and he seems to have picked up on it and will take dishes to kitchen after dinner nad put them in dishwasher.

    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your OH. For example your OH goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from OH and OH staying home looking after kids?
    We don't have kids, but yeh we both have ME time whenever we want it. If anything I have more me time than him. I don't ask to go out,but I discuss it with him and make sure it suits 'our' plans and let him know what I am up to. TBH DH doesn't really make plans outside of surfing so any socialising I organise - we were talking about this the other day because he never knows the date. He said he doesn't need to because I let him know whats going on. AS in, he will have a wedding in Feb but he won't even think about when it is, he just assumes I will tell him. I corodinate all our outings with friends, family etc and he goes along. So generally, if he wants to do something he will check with me because he simply doesn't know if he is free. and I let him know what I plan on doing on my own - not so much to check if im free cos I organise our life but just to let me know. If he ever wanted to do something when I have plans we would just work it out - no biggie.

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    1) He will request certain meals (my homemade lasagne is the fave) but also cooks a fair bit himself.
    2) He is a clean freak... Helps with dishes, vacuums, cleans the bathroom and does all the outside work.
    3) He does get more me time than I do. I don't mind because when I want it I get it and he does work 12 hour days. That and his me-time consists of pigging and fishing (he takes us when he can) father then drinking and going to the pub.
    He also takes me on dates regularly.
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