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    I have a few question for you guys. I'm trying to sort out a few past issues with a certain someone and would like to know how things work for other people.

    1. Does your OH complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?

    2. How much does your OH "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.

    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your OH. For example your OH goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from OH and OH staying home looking after kids?

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    My DH loves anything I cook and is always super thankful. He also does all the dishes as he says I cook so that's his way of helping with dinner

    He does half the cleaning... We both have one weekday a week off and we do a huge clean on those days and weekends too.

    We used to have issues when I'd go out without him, he would get jealous. But he's worked on that and now it's a lot better... Which in turn makes me want to invite him along anyway haha.

    I hit the jackpot with my DH. He does so much for me, I'm really lucky.

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    Quote Originally Posted by janesmum123 View Post
    i have a few question for you guys. I'm trying to sort out a few past issues with a certain someone and would like to know how things work for other people.

    1. Does your oh complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?

    no he knows better.

    2. How much does your oh "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.

    rarely but that ok with us, as i am a sahm.

    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your oh. For example your oh goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from oh and oh staying home looking after kids?

    we don't do me time.
    hth

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    1. Does your OH complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?

    No never.

    2. How much does your OH "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.

    DH got me a cleaner so he can do less but he does the dishes every couple of days, washes clothes more then me actually, irons all his clothes (I don't bother with mine ) he is really good actually. His study is a bomb site though.


    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your OH. For example your OH goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from OH and OH staying home looking after kids?

    Yep. Once DD is in bed we will watch a movie together or even just read and chat or something. I go out more then DH :though so I usually get more "me" time
    He is planning his first leisure trip away (2 nights soon) and is booking me a weekend at the beach in return. (pretty nervous!!!) I'm thinking one night MAX. Lol

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    1. Yes and no. He don't always like or fancy what I cook, he has a relationship issue with food but will usually clean his plate or at least pretend to like something until like the 3rd time then he will tell me why he doesn't really like it. He does request my Lasagna a bit and It does take me a while to make, so I tend to make 3/4 at a time cause it saves time later & they can go in the freezer.

    2. He does NOTHING. Another issue caused by his mother. I am used to it and don't really mind much at all these days but also I have told him he can pull his weight at home and I will work full time or Not and I will work what/when I want. So he's happy with that.

    3. He is one the computer playing games a lot. He has major panic attacks when he goes out without me so that's very rare, but I probably go out once a week to shop and end up running into a stay at home mum or wife friend and have a chat. But I do go out to see friends alone. We don't do bars, pubs or clubs at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Janesmum123 View Post
    I have a few question for you guys. I'm trying to sort out a few past issues with a certain someone and would like to know how things work for other people.

    1. Does your OH complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?

    Not really, but he does complain- only cos I make him eat veggies!!

    2. How much does your OH "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.

    Not as much as he thinks he does! He might do 1-2 loads of washing, usually his stuff, sometimes some of mine thrown in to fill washer but never towels sheets etc. He'll do a half hearted kitchen tidy after dinner when I usually need to finish and he never cleans bathroom. He rarely picks up after himself, but tbh im not great either. He does take the rubbish out and vac when I ask. He thinks he helps HEAPS and it's a constant cause of arguments.

    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your OH. For example your OH goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from OH and OH staying home looking after kids?
    Nope, but we live in his home town and I have limited friends and no family of my own. I think he'd like if I did my own thing more, but he won't do the things around the house it takes me away from- eg if I go to gym I still have to come home and cook, or he whinges cos he needs the car to go to gym even though he goes every day.

    Hope that helps!

    Eta- sorry some of the answers are in the quote above!

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    1. My DP loves anything I cook, and even if I know it sucks he says "this is awesome baby thank you, I can tell you put so much effort in"

    2. We wake up, have breakfast and DP cleans the Bedroom and loungeroom and puts a load of washing on (this includes vacuuming and whatnot) and I clean the kitchen and computer room. We share equally. We have a rule, if someone cooks dinner the other does dishes and so on. I couldn't be bothered with dusting so he does that (thankfully because dust and my allergies don't mix lol)

    3. He has a few mates over once a week (drinking and gaming) I go out to trivia once a week with mates. If he goes out he usually invites me and same same.

    He is a great pick, just waiting for the damn ring to make him mine forever now Mwahahahah
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    1. Not at all. He's just happy with what he gets, although I know he'd prefer less pasta.

    2. He doesn't do much cleaning anymore. Used to before DS. He does help with dishes occassionally, and will help hang out washing if I ask. He'll occasionally vacuum. But that's okay because I'm at home and he works full time.

    3. He doesn't go out much at all. I encourage him to go out with his friends - if I didn't push him he'd never go out at all. At home he gets more 'me' time than
    I do though.

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    1. Does your OH complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?

    He usually doesn't complain, but if he doesn't like whatever it is (or thinks he doesn't like it - even if he hasn't tried it ) he will just not eat it. He is very fussy and a very simple eater - he would be happy with sausages and salad, tacos and that's about it... every day. They're the only things he's guaranteed to eat. It's pretty annoying. He never wants me to make stuff that takes ages - he doesn't like "fancy foods," he says.

    2. How much does your OH "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.

    He's at the mines, so doesn't much... but he goes on wild sprees where he wants to clean everything sometimes. He cleaned out our entire bedroom and re-arranged it over Christmas. I am happy with his level of cleaning (except leaving his socks everywhere... and empty food packets everywhere).

    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your OH. For example your OH goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from OH and OH staying home looking after kids?

    No. In fact, he doesn't like me going out. It makes me angry because he gets to go out - he goes out of all the time up at the mines actually. He thinks that's different because it's "at hte mines," but whatever... he still gets to do some socialising. DP hates going out (other than at the mines where there's nothing else to do), so I don't care if he comes with me or not... but I want to go out. He says he dislikes it cos it's a waste of money... tbh, I think he's more concerned about male attention. I get a fair bit of it when guys have been drinking, usually directed at my chest. I don't know why he cares - I mostly go to gay clubs. lol. Those guys are no threat to him even if I was wanting to cheat. I plan to go out on hte 21st... I just haven't told him yet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Janesmum123 View Post
    I have a few question for you guys. I'm trying to sort out a few past issues with a certain someone and would like to know how things work for other people.

    1. Does your OH complain about the food you cook? Maybe not so much complain but doesnt fancy what you cook? And asks you to make certain dishes? In particular ones that take a long time to make?

    At this point in time, the guys lucky I know my way around the kitchen. I think its in poor form to complain about the food someone else cooks you, unless its obviously undercooked and you might die if you eat it. Otherwise, be thankful, you didn't have to cook it. I'll take ideas of dishes he might like but he knows it might be three years before he tastes them.

    2. How much does your OH "really help" with cleaning. Excluding kids just cleaning/ washing dishes/ laundry that type of thing. I am meaning on a regular basis not just here and there.

    Yes, he helps. Many a fight has ended with 'I'm not your mother or your maid, if you're looking for one of them, they don't live here.' I don't expect him to do 50/50 because he works, but I expect him to help out regularly. He's really changed in that regard.

    3. Do you have "me" time the same amount as your OH. For example your OH goes out once a week with mates does that mean you can do the same without any confrontation from OH and OH staying home looking after kids?

    If either of us went out we might. We generally try to take time together, but as long as the other is given notice, taking 'me' time is cool and we can do that. I just have to take his work hours into consideration.
    Hope it helps.

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