To cut a long story short, i have a 4 and a half year old girl, middle child and has used up every inch of my sanity since day one. She is kind of out of control and hubby and i have always wondered if there was something 'wrong' but after countless trips to various docs they all call me insane im sure, but they certainly dont bother to offer suggestions, except the ' oh this is normal behaviour' .. We have had bloods done to see if there were anything lacking and nope all was fine (i demanded them). She cant help but need attention, but half the time its like she doesnt get what you are saying to her. Bored all of the time, wont do anything for herself, like she is happy to put her shoes on herself but you have to walk them the 2 metres to her. We have had her hearing tested and all is fine. We have yelled, smacked, tried naughty spots, taking things from her. EVERYTHING that i could think of. But i havnt tried dietry. We live on a farm and the kids dont have lollies cordials softdrinks juices etc.
Hubby isnt great when it comes to paitentce, so i feel like i am fighting with ella all day and trying to keep her entertained all day whilst looking after a 6 year old and a 20 month old and 20 weeks pregnant with #4.. Its just draining as my inlaws live 5 km away and they have never been good on paitents and never given her 5 mins of time or understanding so i feel like i a defending her and myself to everyone.
I am just at my end, I have spoken to behavioural phsycologists on the phone and my dr didnt think it was appropriate. but what do i do.. i love my kids and i hate thinking badly like this, but i want to help her otherwise what fun is life going to be like as she gets older. As i said i have a hubby, but when it comes to bringing up the children i am pretty well on my own, with no tolerance or help from the inlaws as they are too busy judging ella and my parenting and my family all lives over 300km away and now people will say why dont the girls come for a sleepover, but i am embaressed to let her go because she performs and you have to lay with her to get her to sleep, she wont eat what anyone serves up, and she still wears a nappy to bed that is saturated by morning.
Any advice would be muchly appreciated, i just really want to be making some progress before may when number 4 arrives. My 20 month old uses up less time and effort than Miss ella and i just want a happy house.
sorry to ramble/vent, just needed to get it all out.