Well as the title suggests, im losing my mind! Sorry in advance for the length!
DS is 9.5 months old. He is still in our room, in his cot. He USED to self settle, and would sleep 12-13hrs overnight without waking or stirring from 3 months old. I thought we had it made! THEN... at 4.5mnths, he started teething and its all gone out the window!
His day naps are fine. He has either 1 big sleep for 3hrs, or 2 small 1.5-2hr sleeps.... Its night times that is the issue. He has a dummy, and is generally rocked to sleep, or held to go to sleep, or if they dont work i lay on our bed till he falls asleep then move him. Usually he has a bottle before his sleeps, and he either feeds to sleep or until he is dopey, then puts his dummy in, rolls over, snuggles into my chest and goes to sleep....
He goes down around 8pm, and wakes an hour later needing re-settling (rocking) back to sleep. IF im lucky, he will go back in his cot and stay there - after doing the arm drop test and he doesnt flinch....but lately he wakes up and just rolls over, stands up and screams (with tears) until he is picked up again as soon as he is put down. So we repeat the process of rocking, then putting down. After a few attempts if unsuccessful i give up and put him in with us...just so i can get some sleep.
He also has bottles 3-4hrly overnight, at which time we repeat the whole process over and over again. The bottles dont phase me, and he also refuses them during the day..... i dont mind...its the NOT going back to sleep that is driving me insane.
Tonight ive started trying to pick him up to settle him, then lay him down with his dummy and rub/pat him...quietly reassuring him that he's ok and im still there...The first time it took me 30mins and he went back to sleep...then woke 20mins later...i tried again and it took 15mins...hoping we've got him down now. (Resettled TWICE in under 90mins of him going down)
Does anyone have any suggestions??Im not sure what to do, I hate having him cry, have always let him lead the routine by adjusting to his natural routine...but its starting to become more than a joke. TIA!