Was it useful to you? If not; why not?
DH and I attended counseling before we got married 2 yrs ago mainly to discuss issues around the fact that he has a DS and an ex that has made our life very difficult (and still does but that's for another time!). It was the best thing we could have done. It made us really listen to each other and express thoughts and feelings with the added benefit of a third party being able to clarify for us what were the underlying issues.
There was a stage where we started to consider not getting married and it really was a tough, but here we are expecting our first little bubba in 3 weeks and couldn't be more excited. We attended all but one session together and got some great tips on how to communicate effectivly once we got home.
And what strategies did you take way from the experience that my DP and I may implement on our own, if he is reluctant to go?
One of the main things we learnt was to really listen to each other and for me say what you mean don't give him a vague answer to a question or make a statement expect him to make the same conclusion that you are wanting him to. In my case I realised rather than making statements like "I don't care, do what you want" I had to make it very clear to him what I did want and what I expected.
Another great thing was if an arguement was going no where was to stop it. Don't keep going because it is likely that it will just keep going around in circles, where you both aren't listening or aren't making your point of view clear. Try writing in dot point what it is you are trying to say, leave it, and make a decision together to discuss those issues at another time when you both have the time to sit down and foucus on what each other is saying.
Make a statement, get your DH to say back to you what he has heard you say and what he thinks you mean, and then clarify if it's not quite right.
Hope that all made sense and was some help Wish you the best of luck with it.