Honestly? I don't judge at all - I used to be the same. I have discovered that keeping an organised, tidy house keeps me calm and focused. I become anxious and stressed if my house is a shambles. It reflects upon my kids, my mind, my whole life.
I really dislike the statement that people who are organised and 'clean' don't spend quality time with their children. In fact, it really irritates me.
Speaking from my personal experience, I spend *more* quality time with my children when I keep an organised house - because my head is in the right place, I have more time (yes, once you get into the habit of it all you save time due to efficiency, even if it seems like it takes a lot of time) and I'm happier all around.
Some times my house is crazy - there are days when I cbf doing anything - I might get caught up painting with DS, or I might decide to go shopping instead of cleaning. Or just lay on the couch all day. I don't let it bother me. I try not to sweat the small stuff, and just do what works for me, as everyone should