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    Okay....for me this rings alarm bells. I dont think a 7 year old child should be sucking on another childs nipple. I just think its too young to know that sort of behaviour.

    The reason why it alarms me is this:

    My nephew is 7.5 and DS is 6.5. From about the age of 4.5 the nephew was engaging in behaviour that I thought was inappropriate with my son and on his own. He would wash my sons bottom if they had a bath together (he would have an erection doing this), my sis would tell me that he would put things up his own bottom as he said that he liked it. Over the years he would take my son somewhere private and take his pants down and then would touch my son. DS would come to me and tell me saying he didnt like it and didnt want to do it but nephew made him.

    I spoke with my sis about this be she brushed it off saying it was 'normal' behaviour. I spoke with my Health Nurse and she was incredibly alarmed at what was happening and gave me recommendations as what to do. I spoke again with my sis but she again brushed it off.

    Because she was so nonchalant about it I made sure that whenever DS and nephew were together that they were never alone and I could of times I did catch him doing this and spoke with him about it.

    Now it has come to light that a 15yo boy in the neighborhood has been molesting nephews friend for over 4 years - at school and at home. I wont go into the specifics but its awful. And the friend has been doing the some of the same things to the nephew….and the nephew in turn was doing it to my son.

    My son has expressed that he doesn’t like it and doesn’t want to do it and in my eyes he is being abused….its a terrible situation especially as the children involved are doing things that they don’t necessarily know is wrong.

    I have taught my kids that nooone should touch their p3nies, etc but my sister never did that with nephew as she thought nothing like that would happen. Now she wishes she did as maybe all this wouldn’t have happened.

    Now I am not saying that this girl is being abused and she may be exposed to some things that she shouldn’t be exposed to at such a young age BUT if you think its wrong and inappropriate then it is. If your son is saying he doesn’t like it then that is when you need to step in and ensure it doesn’t happen again.

    This document has a great table in it (on page 12) that describes what is normal and what behaviour is of concern. It may help address some of what you are asking - http://www.ais.sa.edu.au/__files/f/78337/RespondingtoProblemSexual.pdf

    I wish you all the best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    We don't know for sure that Brock was forced though. He may have just said that bc he thought he was in trouble. Not saying he wasn't, but no one can be sure he was either. Could have been mutual, even his idea?
    True, but I would still be talking to him further to find out for sure, and explaining that he shouldn't be touching other people and other people shouldn't be touching him either.

    Quote Originally Posted by Michelle_N View Post
    Now it has come to light that a 15yo boy in the neighborhood has been molesting nephews friend for over 4 years - at school and at home. I wont go into the specifics but its awful. And the friend has been doing the some of the same things to the nephew….and the nephew in turn was doing it to my son.
    I'm so sorry this has happened to your family. Your son is lucky to have a Mum like you who realised it was wrong and took steps to protect him.

    I hope your sister and all the kids involved are getting some counseling to help them through this. She must feel incredibly guilty that she ignored you and didn't protect her son.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Californication View Post
    True, but I would still be talking to him further to find out for sure, and explaining that he shouldn't be touching other people and other people shouldn't be touching him either.



    I'm so sorry this has happened to your family. Your son is lucky to have a Mum like you who realised it was wrong and took steps to protect him.

    I hope your sister and all the kids involved are getting some counseling to help them through this. She must feel incredibly guilty that she ignored you and didn't protect her son.
    Thanks Cali! Its a horrible situation, especially for nephews friend. This boy was in teh same primary school and as a grade 6er he was the buddy of the friend. So he would take the friend to the toilet and do things to him. And noone did anything as as a grade 6er they are meant to be buddies and look after the preps.

    Anyway....its with the cops at the moment. The friend has made a statement to the cops and its up to the cops to follow it up. I expressed to my sis that she should seek counselling for nephew but she hasnt. This all blew up in September and her excuse was "after I go away" or "when my birthday is finished", etc. Now its been a few months I know she want pursue it.

    Worst thing tho is that she blames me for not telling her sooner about all the other incidences. As I said to her...I have told you before and you didnt do anything so I took it upon myself to do what is best for my son. What makes me angry is that she still hasnt done anything about it. I think she feels guilty but she is a master of repression so as long as everything is happy on the surface then she will ignore it.

    However OP I apologise for hijacking the thread....I just wanted to add another perspective that yes sexual exploration in young children happens but its the type of behaviour that needs to be looked at and assessed. I knew something was up....and unfortunately there was a problem.

    Good luck!

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    as much as i am a bit shocked by the situation... all I have to say, being still quite young myself and hearing stories, My brother went to school witha girl who was taking it from behind alreay at 13... i would kill my daughter if i found out she was doing this at only 13 but the fact is that they are being exposed to this sort of thing so young and the will start getting younger each generation of when these things will come into play with them. I do not agree with the mother laughing tho. if you feel uneasy about the situation she should atleast have a chat to her child but clearly she doesnt see it as an issue. probably would even say theyre only kids experimenting... still wrong i think. but the things i hear these days only makes me wnat to lock up my child and keep them confined


 

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