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    Yeah, I wouldn't think abuse, just some exposure to older material from books or TV. Perhaps a case of I show you mine if you show me yours.

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    I wouldn't immediately think abuse. Kids are very imaginative. I know because I was one, and I was very sheltered as a kid (didn't even see an M rated movie till I was 12 or so) and certainly not abused. But the stuff me and friends were doing- any mother would be shocked

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    I wouldn't immediately think abuse either. Kids often experiment sexually without really realising what they're doing. It could very well be that Caitlin was trying something she saw on TV or heard about in the school yard or something. She may have just touched her own nipples previously, enjoyed the sensation, so encouraged Brock to do something to them.

    She also has older siblings, and I'm sure she'll have heard them discussing things from time-to-time.

    When I was 5, I had a boy tell me he'd suck my tits (using that word). Yes, at 5. He would have been 5 or 6 himself. (He then laughed and told me I didn't have any to suck... I was horribly offended... LOL!). I also remember talking about body parts a lot around this age.

    The laughing could very well be embarrassment, but I do think that such a reaction would make me feel uncomfortable anyway.

    I think all your friend can do is keep and eye out for any further concerning behaviour, and also let BOTH children know that this is not the kind of thing is not on, and that nobody should touch another's body in that way... and that if it does happens, they should let you know. That way, I figure if there's abuse going on, the little girl has been given permission to tell an adult other than her own parents... little kids aren't to know that this behaviour is wrong unless they're told so.

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    I agree with fearless leader! My mother would have been shocked too. I definitely wouldn't think abuse, just exploring I'd say at a guess. Just encourage open door policy from now on.

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    Did anyone ask the little girl why she asked the boy to do this?

    She may have seen her parents doing something similar, which may be why her mother laughed (as inappropriate as that response was - if she thought it was amusing she should have explained why).

    She has either seen it somewhere and is curious, or there could be a more sinister explanation but I would most definitely follow it up - perhaps bring it up with the little girl, in a casual way, ask her where she learned about those actions/behaviours.

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    Ok let me get this straight, because I'm confused - the 15 year old boy was sucking 7 year old girls nipple??

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    I wouldn't think abuse at all. I remember that age pretty well and sex stuff was very interesting to most of us. The little girl have have overheard or seen something adult by accident.. Or maybe even thought of it herself

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    I believe both children were 7...

    My first thought was the same as Veve... are you sure it wasn't related to breast feeding rather than something sexual?

    Even if it was sexual I wouldn't necessarily assume abuse. Television, older siblings, children at school, peeking into her parents' room all seem likely culprits to me. Perhaps keep an eye on things, but I wouldn't jump to any conclusions.

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    Ohhh ok. If they were both 7 then, I wouldn't think abuse.

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    i would keep an eye out and would bring it up with the mum, telling her that you found it disturbing.

    i would not assume abuse and i would not assume it wasnt abuse.

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