I'm having issues with my DD3. Out of the blue, 2 weeks ago, she started to become very naughty at around 5pm in the afternoon. It's like someone would flick a switch in her mind and my little angel will turn into a naughty, disrespectful and violent child. I'm covered in scratches (that bled when inflicted) and bruises from her hitting and kicking. If she doesn't get her way she cries her eyes out.
Part of the problem is coming from DH and I. When she's misbehaving, he asks her what she'd like to do, and then says to her "if you stop x y or z, then I will give it to you"...she'll stop, he gives her what she wants, then it's back to the same naughty behaviour. To me, that feels like he's rewarding her negative behaviour. She knows all she has to do is act up, then Daddy will give her that option. Granted it works for him, but not for me. It also doesn't help that the second she starts crying DH starts yelling at me and telling me what to do. His yelling gets worse the longer she cries, and the more he yells the more she cries. He seems to expect me to press a button and instantly stop her crying. If she doesn't stop crying, he'll get up, physically shove me away from her, and see to her himself....yet she'll then be crying for me.
I know our behaviour is contributing to this....but we're both at our wits end with her hurting us, and breaking everything, throwing, being demanding, and naughty. Her diet hasn't suddenly changed...and during the day she truly is a perfect child.