my son is on the wait to get assessed...but we've known from early that he is bright...i'm on the fence re gifted.
he struggled badly through prep...boredom, a symetric development, not so great social skills, a bully...the year sucked! his teacher tried...but overall, he was bored and hated it. it was one of my hardest ever years as a parent.
moving on to year1, we were both apprehensive but it was much better for him. more academic, more structured, the teacher was able to set him work that challenged him...it was great. We also started taking him to gateways (gifted and talented education series) and he loved it. he was working with kids who were on his level...he was not the smartest there...he learnt all sorts of fascinating facts....he LOVED it. he still talks about the berlin wall project he did there).
I am nervous about the new year to come...a new teacher who i don't know and not sure how she will go with DS in her class (although the head of junior school has assured me that they are going to get one great) and they are also starting an "oportunity" type club that will run in some class time and some lunch times that he has been ear marked for.
My son loves learning...i have found a few things have really helped him though...
doing an activity that he has to work hard at (for us it was something physical as that was his weakness) so that he learns how to work hard and how to not be the best but keep trying regardless.
Playing lots of board games where he learns to win and lose graciously (although he can now beat everyone except me at chess lmao...and i have to work to win).
having regular debriefs with him and with school so he has a chance to offload the emotions. When he was being bullied i always asked him what he would like me to do...ie are you handling or do you want me to speak to your teacher?
do extra assignments to fit his interests at home
encourage him to be himself and that we (and loads of others) love him for who he is. reassure him that some people may not like him (just like he prefers some to others) and thats ok.
i have found some comments from other parents worse than some kids...but needless to say, the kids of the parents who say *****y things are the ones who gave ds a hard time!
hang in there...it can be hardcore...and there is generally little empathy from the general populous...but you are not alone