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    Default Feel Guilty but need to VENT!

    The last 24 hours, my kids have been INSANE!!

    My youngest (20months) has been super overtired and I can't do anything for him whatsoever. When he's not crying and fighting sleep he is getting into everything he shouldn't.. then tantrumming when I try to distract him. He's so overtired but even when i spend hours getting him to sleep his big brother wakes him up again or he just wakes himself up.. He doesnt want to be picked up, he doesnt want to be put down, its hopeless! I'm 13 weeks pg and lifting up and down and having a 13kg 20 monther flail and dive around in my arms is making me feel like my spine is going to break out of my back and crumble on the carpet!

    My Eldest (turning 5) is being ridiculously NAUGHTY! He argues about everything, he's whining that he's hungry/bored but wont do/eat anything I prepare for him. He fell asleep on the drive home from my sisters this morning (when she got so sick of his incredible behaviour she needed us to leave) obviously hes overtired too, but he woke up the moment I popped him down in bed. He's trashed everything, he broke a stick outside brought it in and was hitting his brother with it! He's been terrorising his overtired brother and screaming and carrying on like a two yo when I put him in his room/have things taken from him for it! He's destroying things and being entirely satanic! I had to physically hold his bedroom door shut while he raged on the other side of it, threw things at it, and tried to forcefully pull it open, all while holding my 20monther on my hip screaming crying and climbing all over me trying to get down (even though as soon as I put him down he either drops or tries to climb back up)

    The entire house is trashed, I hadnt done the dishes since yesterday because I was absolutely exhausted from the kids and the pregnancy, the lounge room is full of toys and cut up paper and little soldiers Ive asked him to pick up maybe 100 times, the bedrooms have all the clothes pulled out of the drawers and cupboards all over the floor (except for mine) the lawns are overgrown because I havnt had a break from the kids to do them..

    Theyre going to their dads tonight, and he then has them for a week and a half (usually never this long, but because of holidays etc) I feel entirely guilty for thinking this, and I know Ill miss them by tomorow, but I feel like I cant wait for them to go atm! How horrible is that! Im exhausted and flustered and having a horrible day!

    I know that this is a normal thing that happens, they are just overtired and all kids have there angelic and satanic days. I get that. I know that its normal for single mums with kids and pg to have a trashed house every now and then. I have had these things happena million times before and usually I deal with it ok, not every time, but usually. its just I feel incredibly sick and tired of it all today and now I have the added guilt of feeling ready to hand them over to dad and celebrate! (or you know, pass out on the couch!!)

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    Do you have a room that is child proof? Can you quickly empty one? Maybe a couple of made up beds on the floor with no stimulation but maybe a favorite Teddy and shut the door. They're overtired and overstimulated as hard as it may be letting your 20month old stay down and cry may be what's best support him and stay close but do not keep playing the up down thing as it's not helping him. Your eldest sounds like he needs a time out quiet room where he can go and let all those feelings he can't control out for a while and then chances are he will sleep again. good luck I know how hard it gets enjoy your break when they go to dads

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    Thank you peekaboo

    I will try to put little man down for a sleep but he can climb out of bed and open doors now so he's a bit of an escapee! I am going to stop picking him up and down though, if for no other reason then to save my back!

    My eldest does need a sleep too, but convincing him to go to a quiet room and stay there is like convincing a cat to get in a full bath tub!

    I agree with your advice It is just harder to do than it sounds, and Im already exhausted.. Just a couple more hours to get through!

    thank you, youre absolutely right! Overstimulated, overtired, need to rest, and the kids need to as well

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    I only had one son at home with me but when I was around the 3month pregnant mark things were crazy here too. I was sooo stressed, had 0 energy and my son seemed to pick it up and play up because I was too warn down to be my normal self. House was a absolute pigsty & I even thought about hitting my dog when he didn't listen to me, I was so stressed! (I'm actually a vegetarian because I love animals so this was so out of character for me even I could see how crazy my feelings were, but I still had them!)

    Just want you to know your not alone & I hope you can have a nice relaxing week while the kids are gone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kiplusthree View Post
    Thank you peekaboo

    I will try to put little man down for a sleep but he can climb out of bed and open doors now so he's a bit of an escapee! I am going to stop picking him up and down though, if for no other reason then to save my back!

    My eldest does need a sleep too, but convincing him to go to a quiet room and stay there is like convincing a cat to get in a full bath tub!

    I agree with your advice It is just harder to do than it sounds, and Im already exhausted.. Just a couple more hours to get through!

    thank you, youre absolutely right! Overstimulated, overtired, need to rest, and the kids need to as well
    Oh believe me I know and I have had days where I just leave mine and deal with the results after. Especially pregnant it just gets too much..

    Pick up eldest ds and put him in quiet room, repeat with a no it's time to have quiet time now when he comes out, if he does this more than twice don't say anything just return him. Annoying but he will get it we tell our oldest to go to room and has now learnt to stay till permission is given to leave will even go on own now when it's too much to deal with

    Same with younger ds. explainits time for a nap keep voice calm and neutral and return to bed. If he starts acting up in his room walk in put him down again and walk out keep interaction to a minimum


 

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