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    Abortions are not illegal in Qld. There are several women's clinics that do them.

    If she is going to terminate, she needs to stay with people who will support her before and after. Perhaps move into BFs house and sort herself out either way then try to rebuild her relationship with her family rather than moving away from her BF and circle of mates.

    Good on you for helping her too.

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    How far along is she? The ru486 pill can be taken up to 9 weeks to terminate a pregnancy and may be less traumatic than a surgical procedure. I'm pretty sure it's available at Family Planning clinics for women who's pregnancy may cause detremental physical or mental effects.
    I hope things work out for her and good on you for trying to help her. It sounds like such an awful situation with no support from those she probably expected support from
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    if done early enough it will be a medical termination rather than surgical

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    Suggest to her that she lie to her mother, and tell her it was a m/c, especially if she can have a medical rather than a surgical termination.

    I would hate to think of her being kicked out of home for exercising her own decision making over her own body There are many choice words i want to use to describe that 'mother'

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    either way you would not want to be living in that house anymore

    maybe if I little more support was offered all would not be in the situation in the first place

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    There are various places where she can get an abortion. Even in Qld you can... there are plenty of places that offer legal abortions up here.

    Obviously better to do it sooner rather than later, so she should probably do it, and make sure there's support in place if her mother does kick her out (sometimes parents threaten this crap but don't actually follow through...).

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    Sorry but since when has abortions been illegal in qld there are clinics that do it here?
    Where did u get the information on this from.

    To the op I would tell her to get counciling first it is a really hard thing to do. The clinic I went to didn't offer it I was just asked to fill out a questionnaire. If she really wants a abortion I think she should get one but first have counciling. Is the bf supportive she should be moving in with him, and his family she needs supportive people around her at this time

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    She can get an abortion legally without parents from 15 in AUS we can make medical decisions ourselves anyway but terminations I think they specifically ruled you don't need parental consent.

    She can live with boyfriend unless her mum makes a big deal out of it, but I'd suggest she record somewhere that her mum kicked her out and when/ why that way if her mum does make a fuss she has proof as to why it became necessary for her to have a place to stay (delighted to see his family will support her decision even if her mother won't )

    Shell need counseling for abortion and someone to take her to and from also to stay with her, if she can the abortion pill is less invasive and she may even be able to claim miscarriage then? (if she wants and then mum may be more supportive) as that is an option for at home and it will essentially look like a miscarriage to most.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gandalf View Post
    Suggest to her that she lie to her mother, and tell her it was a m/c, especially if she can have a medical rather than a surgical termination.

    I would hate to think of her being kicked out of home for exercising her own decision making over her own body There are many choice words i want to use to describe that 'mother'
    ^ well said and completely agree..


 

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