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    Default When does obsessive behaviour become a problem?

    At what point does obsessive behaviour in toddlers become a problem?

    My 2 year old DD is obsessive over a lot of things and I have no idea whether this is normal toddler behaviour or not.

    - All of her toys need to be put back in exactly the same spot every time. To the point that she will notice if one thing is out of place on the shelf and move it
    - At other peoples houses she notices if something small has moved and will move it back to where she first saw it
    - She always wants to draw in red - I have to draw in orange and daddy has to draw in blue
    - She remembers things that could have happened weeks or months ago and then will talk and talk about it

    Is this normal 2 year old behavior or should I seek some help?

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    Toddlers go through lots of stages, the behavior you describe is very obsessive and whether it's the norm or not I don't really know but I would be concerned if it was my child. Perhaps make an appointment with a paed or discuss with your health nurse first.

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    i have ocd (have had as far as i can remember). toddlers definately have stages of obsessive behaviour - i would make gentle conversation about things not having to be 'perfect'. if your child cannot accept this or finds it distressing over a period of time (say a month or two) then i would talk to a paed. may not mean anything is wrong, but if they do have ocd tendancies, you can tackle them early and in a gentle manner without medication.

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    Sounds really normal, my DS1was exactly the same and is now a very very bright 7 year old who is very neat, organized, intelligent and has a fantastic memory!

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    I was a bit OCD, still am sometimes. I don't think that there was much that could have gotten me out of it. Perhaps ask her why she wants to move things. Is it because she likes organisation (which isn't too bad) or is it because she doesn't like things changing and thinks something bad will come of change. Maybe ask her to help find a new home for something you want to move? See it she's ok with that?

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    It sounds very normal to me.

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    The thing about abnormal behaviours is often that they are normal at certain ages and only if they persist well past this time are they considered abnormal. Obsessional behaviour & need for repetition is VERY normal in 2 - 3 year olds. In a book I read about it they said that some 2yo's will throw a tantrum if you say 'goodnight' after turning off the light, instead of before ... and this is completely normal.

    My ds was quite rigid in the way he wanted things done at age 2 & I was worried too, til I asked other bubhub mum's and did some extra reading then I was reassurred. Yes, people with OCD often have those behaviours from early in life, but conversely children with obsessional behaviour often do not have OCD later in life.

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    My DD sounds alot like yours, I am taking her to a paed just for peace of mind!

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    Thanks for all of your responses! I must admit that I am a bit the same and DH also has some OCD tendencies (he needs to count things in groups of 4 etc.) so I'm sure some of it is learned behaviour from us. Still always a concern though.


 

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