I haven't posted on this site for some time but am searching for some advice and thoughts about long term relationships.
My question is would you stay in a long term relationship if you are never going to move in together and get married because your partner cannot tollerate something about you? It would mean a big change that would take a long time to do and I don't know that I can change to that extent.
The situation is:
I have been dating for 2.5 yrs and the last 9 months of so have felt the relationship isn't going anywhere, that is not moving towards moving in together or anything like that. He has no kids and I have one.
Finally after alot of unhappiness I found the courage to discuss it as I am not good with confrontation and we don't have the best communication.
I am a bit of a hoarder and my house has clutter he is the opposite minimalistic and neat. He will not consider getting a place together because of this. I am trying to change but is is hard work and taking me a very long time to let go of possessions. I also like to buy and sell stuff.
He says I come across as on edge and not very cheerful I would say this is because of my house and my inability to get it sorted out.
Hence for my questions above.