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    Default Cheating exH cheats again with new GF

    Sorry not sure which section to put this in but im in need of advice!!! My exH loves his GF however, Something bad happened... We slept together and he asked me if we could make this a recourring thing. It was a mistake. But we are still attracted to each other and it just happened. However then he started to get interested into the dating site I'm on and he signed himself to one ( not using his real name so he wouldnt get caught) He wants to cheat again and plans to cheat... Yet still be with his GF. The GF knows he cheated on me but believes he would never do that to her.
    I'm at a cross roads... I want her to know he's cheated and plans to cheat. Because I feel that she deserves to know. However I don't want to stick my nose into their business.
    What would you ladies do in this situation???

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    It's hard to say. At the very least I'd suggest ending the sexual relationship between you and your ex and staying out of his/their business. She will find out, eventually.
    Part of me would want to tell her though, either directly or anonymously - depending on your relationship with her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bell & Bug View Post
    It's hard to say. At the very least I'd suggest ending the sexual relationship between you and your ex and staying out of his/their business. She will find out, eventually.
    Part of me would want to tell her though, either directly or anonymously - depending on your relationship with her.

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    Wow, he sounds just lovely.

    I don't really believe in 'meddling', but if my partner was cheating on me, I would want to know - So that I could end it/address it, but mostly to ensure I was not having nasty STD's passed onto me by someone I trust. So upon saying that, I would inform her. I would do it anonymously though, otherwise you might look like a jealous ex just trying to cause trouble (so that she believes it instead of disregarding the info).
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    I agree, an anonymous tip-off is the way to go. She needs to know her partner is deceiving her. She thinks she can trust him & he's abusing her trust.

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    I suggest you knock on her door with photographic evidence. Whatever the consequence you both deserve it.


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    TBH...I've been in the GF shoes and I think you and your ex husband should balls up and tell her. Fair enough if you have feelings for each other but you knew he was seeing someone.

    And if his now signed on a dating site, she has no hope.

    Don't mean to offend anyone... Sorry if I do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hopefully2 View Post
    I suggest you knock on her door with photographic evidence. Whatever the consequence you both deserve it.


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    ^^ or while DTD you "accidentally" call her and she hears it all.

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    It will probably cause drama if your ex knows it was you that told her but I think she deserves to know too. If you know his dating profile name maybe email her a link anonymously.

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    You've been in the situation before so you know what it's like to have a cheating partner.

    When he cheated on you, how did you find out? Did others know before you?

    Feelings or not, he's with someone else he has 'feelings' for & is going on a site to pick up more..I'd be cutting all ties where possible & let his GF know, maybe send details of the site & his profile.

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