This will be a long one, and I will make it 2 posts... sorry in advance, and thank you if you read this all.
I've been feeling SUPER uncomfortable around my neighbours lately, due to numerous issues and just don't know how to deal with it.
DP, DD and I moved from Syd to Per in Oct 2010. Moved in to what we thought was a great street, with neighbours who all knew each other and chatted out the front regularly, went to dinner, had drinks etc.
A few months ago, I finally made friends with a family who are so lovely and have 2 DD's. one being the same age as our DD. Which is great as we really wanted to find people that had kids and similar interests.
Our immediate next door neighbours (couple) are CLEARLY not happy about this, and have made numerous comments about it to let us know that. Things like "Well, clearly we've been replaced" "Guess we're not friends anymore, because you have new friends' etc. (We have not stopped spending time with the neighbours and as they work full time, we see them late arvo/evening anyway)
My friend (S) feels quite uncomfortable coming here, as she always gets stared down if they are home and the female (we'll call her K) has often, come to her car, if we've been out together, taken my DD out as fast as possible and gone to her house, while I get out of the car and say good bye.
There are bigger issues with the male (L) neighbour. L, we found out not long ago, had Glandular Fever. No problem there. We found out when K told us he was going for a blood test to check for that and other numerous things due to being quite sick for a long period of time. I did not know he had been sick and we had spent quite a lot of time with K & L with DD also. L is also a very heavy pot smoker, which I don't want DD exposed to.
DD has had chronic/recurring tonsillitis for the last 11 months of her life and they know the struggles I go through every fortnight when she has it. (DP works FIFO also, so it's just me dealing with it most of the time)
I thought the RESPONSIBLE thing to do, would be to let me know and not invite me and DD over for dinner/coffee etc whilst sick.
A few weeks ago, we were out the front having a chat and K gave DD an ice cube. Fine. DD dropped the ice cube and I said "Oh well, all gone". L, who was drinking a Bourbon and had just had a c0ne, picked up the ice cube, washed it under his bourbon, stuck it in his mouth, then gave it back to DD.
I would not do this to a niece or nephew let alone a neighbours child when I have been sick!!