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    Whilst I do feel sorry for the girl who is obviously very bored/lonely or even perhaps neglected/ignored at home, it's not right her mum allows that if she isn't even a friend of yours.

    As PP have said, I'd definitely say something to the mother (not the girl who wouldn't understand and may be hurt ). You want to get on top of this BEFORE you have the baby. The last thing you need is to deal with this situation and s newborn!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Birdistheword View Post
    Okay well, I may be different. The child really shouldn't come over and ask it should be prearranged, BUT, am I gonna tell a child to 'go away'? No way, maybe she is lonely and she wants some friends? Children are children, some just need a play mate. Maybe just ask "do your parent's know you're here?" or something along those lines.
    I would hate for a child to miss out because their parents are too afraid to ask etc.
    If their parents know that their child is there what is the problem? If kids came over to hang out with my sis I would love it! I would make cookies or something with them and have a bit of fun, things are getting a little too serious for me these days!!

    ETA: I remember the days when any kid went to any persons house and stayed over, climbed trees and had a bit of fun! Maybe that's what kids these days need!! Instead of sitting on their phones, ipods, iphones, ipads, computers and tvs/gaming machines when they are 4 or 5! Why do kids need these sort of things that age?!?! Because their friends have it?! Who cares? My parents never gave into **** like that!
    The op has a 3yo and is pregnant.

    I also have a 3yo, and I would not be thrilled spending my day looking after a 5yo as well, as it sounds like the age gap means that the op would have to entertain the older child.

    I was born in 1980, so didn't grow up with ipads etc,.and I spent my childhood in the backyard, with friends over and playing with neighbours' kids. But it was when I was a bit older (closer to 10) and we would stay mostly outside and entertain ourselves without parents getting too involved.

    It's just not age appropriate at 4-5.

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    I don't think you are in the wrong and personally I think the Mum needs to have a good look at herself. She doesn't know you, but is happy to send her child to your house?? Far out! I would never do that with my kids! For all she knows you are an axe murderer!

    Apart from the annoyance factor for you, there is a huge safety issue for that little girl. Not good at all.

    I agree with all the suggestions of talking to Mum and saying that you can't be having her daughter over. You have enough on your plate!

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    Yeah it would be a totally different situation if they were both maybe over 6-7, school friends or something. So like they can go into the backyard and play unsupervised type age. That'd be great.

    And if the mum spoke to me first.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boobycino View Post
    Yeah it would be a totally different situation if they were both maybe over 6-7, school friends or something. So like they can go into the backyard and play unsupervised type age. That'd be great.

    And if the mum spoke to me first.
    ii agree! you souldnt have to babysit ever, especially being pregnant!

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    your neighbour is taking advantage of you , you're totally right with your way of thinking, you're not a free baby sitting service, dont feel guilty for asking the little girl to leave

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    welcome to my world.....8 kids over each day before christmas.......and on chirstmas eve oh and 23rd I said none in back yard just in street...I got had a go at......sorry aint feeding everykid. Honestly I have 3 kids and if I have 8 more here and they say 'icypole"...no that is 11. I love our close knit street and how close the kids are but honestly 8 kids plus mine 3 days in a row as their mum's were shopping/working??? Might be ok but when I send 1 kid to a house (for 30 mins)I get " it is christmas Im not letting kids into my house".....lesson learnt as I gave same back same afternoon for her 3 when they came into my house..........I have been told to become more...ummmm stand up for myself, wish i could. gave in 3 times yesterday to no play but did the 'no house'...FAIL...but kicked them out within an hour...I suck

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    oh maybe should add I was 2 hours late to early xmas lunch as was babysitting for 2 hours...turned into 5..still copping crap from MIL and I love my MIL so could be worse......but she is still upset

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    Ahh torrie! That sounds like a nightmare! 8 + 3 how overwhelming!

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    I think it's odd and not appropriate at all - I would definitely say something to her Mum!


 

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