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    DaughteroftheForest is offline Sometimes you have to forget what you want in order to remember what you deserve
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    No way! DS is 6 and I can't even imagine sending him next door to the house of a pregnant lady with a 3 year old to 'play', whom I don't even know that well.

    Like PP's have said, the next time she comes over i'd walk her home and say "Just wanted to make sure she got home safe. I'm really not in a position to have her over atm."

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    Thanks just checking. I was starting to feel a bit guilty sending her away.

    I might try to bring it up through the fence. I was just hoping at some point either mum or child would get the point. I may need to approach this head on.

    Or move.lol.

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    On another note though, things of this kind of nature happen to you a fair bit.. is it possible you're giving people a signal that it's okay somehow? Maybe you are wanting to seem accomodating etc and it backfires?

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    I think I do struggle with being totally forthcoming if someone is overstepping boundaries with me.

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    its not right for her to keep coming after being knocked back but 4yr olds can be annoying so perhaps she's just nagging at her mum that she wants to go play.

    my DD1 is 4.5 and she often plays next door (only when they invite her i wouldnt let her invite herself) our neighbours boys are 9 & 2 so not her age but they all love playing together.

    not saying you should have to offer but just pointing out that despite the age gap they may play nicely if you ever did decide to let them

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    Happens to my parents!
    They have no young kids, they only time they do is when the grand kids visit.
    Once is was there at 9am on a Saturday morning getting ready to go out with my mum and the little boy and girl from next door came over, they are about 3 & 4, asking to play with the dogs!!!
    Kids were still in their pjs, shoes on the wrong feet.

    Mum was just like "no sorry"

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    I wouldn't appreciate it either.

    Sometimes I'd get the neighbours kid (or all 3 of them) coming over wanting to play... I whinged about it here on BH a few times. lol.

    I know that the way I made it stop was to say, "I'll send you an invite when it's a good time for hte kids to come over." Saying "no," to her kids a billion times didn't seem to click with her... but messaging her the above did. Whenever they've asked to come over since, the mum has quickly told them to stop being rude. Previously, she'd have just looked at me like, "I dare you to turn my kid down." lol.

    Perhaps you could send her back to home, and ask her to tell her mother that when a convenient time comes up, you'll come over and ask her to come play. Then just never do that. lol.

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    Our neighbour at our old place was like this. Her daughter was about 8 and was allowed to wander the streets and do whatever she liked.
    She was constantly at our place, asking if she could play,would want to take my 3 and 5 year old for a walk to god knows where, asking if she could come in, etc..
    I didn't even know her mother yet she was alright with her daughter constantly coming over. I got really fed up with it when every single time i looked up she would be standing at the back door. I ended up giving her a bit of a lecture about how it was rude to come into other peoples houses or to rock up at their back door uninvited and all the time. She backed off a fair bit and resorted to yelling at my kids over the fence or through the window to get their attention. It was a bit better at least.

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    Yeah, sometimes she yells at jasper through the fence - Jasper ignores her though. At least only our front doors share a fence, bit hard to explain, but we are both in duplexes, but not on the same house block, so our actual yards fortunately don't share a fence. She'll try to call jasper over to talk & jasper either is oblivious or runs away. Another reason I'm not too keen, it's not like jasper is eager to play with her.

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    Okay well, I may be different. The child really shouldn't come over and ask it should be prearranged, BUT, am I gonna tell a child to 'go away'? No way, maybe she is lonely and she wants some friends? Children are children, some just need a play mate. Maybe just ask "do your parent's know you're here?" or something along those lines.
    I would hate for a child to miss out because their parents are too afraid to ask etc.
    If their parents know that their child is there what is the problem? If kids came over to hang out with my sis I would love it! I would make cookies or something with them and have a bit of fun, things are getting a little too serious for me these days!!

    ETA: I remember the days when any kid went to any persons house and stayed over, climbed trees and had a bit of fun! Maybe that's what kids these days need!! Instead of sitting on their phones, ipods, iphones, ipads, computers and tvs/gaming machines when they are 4 or 5! Why do kids need these sort of things that age?!?! Because their friends have it?! Who cares? My parents never gave into **** like that!
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