Yeah I'm not really looking for opposing opinions, just looking to confirm my own (just being honest - lol) unless of course I'm WAY out of line and haven't realized. Lol. If so, be gentle - this could be an over tired pregnant rant as well!
The neighbours daughter who is about 4-5 years keeps coming over and asking to have a play.
I've politely told her no - we are busy, or not now, or something. What do I say (yes I'd like honest feedback for that - I don't know how to openly say 'no and please don't come back' to a 5 year old.)
I'm just not that keen to be a free baby sitter. I'm very aware that she started coming over around the time I mentioned to her mum I'm a childcarer. I'm not friends with her mum - I actually don't like her much. And I've done it before for a 'friend' who heard I was a child carer and must have heard 'I work in child care' to mean 'I will baby sit your kids for free' - so I am really also probably overly wary of a repeat of that situation.
And it would be a bit different if I had a 4-5 year old also but jasper is 3.
But lets say you have a 4-5 year old who've you've sent/let over to the neighbours house several times - as in once or twice a week - without actually going yourself to say 'Hi, would it be okay for my child to play here for a bit?' - but if several times your child has come home without having been allowed to play, at what point do you stop letting your child try to invite themselves over for a play?
I feel really irritated being put in the position where I have to say 'no'.
Or should I go and talk to her mum and say 'please stop sending her over. I'm pregnant and tired and want to enjoy having only one child to worry about as long as possible!'
Also in the back of my mind I think does her mum even know she's here? I can't imagine just letting jasper go to see someone next door to visit without me going with him at preschool age! Unless it was a super close and trusted friend and they were expecting him??
Okay. Tell me I'm not crazy that this isn't me being an unfriendly b!tch not letting the neighbours child come over to play.