OP I know you don't want to go into details but do you mean that this murderer in this instance is a child or an adult now? I wonder if that matters to the topic of love and forgiveness.
It would depend on the circumstances - mainly why they committed the murder. Premeditated I'd find it hard... In the heat of the moment I probably feel differently
It is very distressing and so hard to say what you would do. The parents are just devastated. The mother actually said she thinks she would have found it easier to deal with her child dying than this. They feel really betrayed and as if they don't know the person their child actually is at all.
It is heartbreaking because through all the emotion they are dealing with it is so obvious that they absolutely still love the child, but they are so hurt and conflicted by what they have done.
They have been approached by the child's solicitor to testify for the child, and they truly do want to be supportive, but they can't bring themselves to stand there in the same room as the deceased's family and defend the child's actions.
It is just heartbreaking, and I really don't know what I would do in that situation either. It is just like a whole new kind of hell I guess
Again one of them situations that i couldnt even begin to comprehend of pass judgement on as i have never been in the situaltion and hope i never am
My thoughts are with the families involved
It must be incredibly hard for your family friend.
I have no idea how I would react in that situation.
I think that, as with most situations, it is impossible to say how you would feel.
Was it in cold blood? Self defence? A payback? There are far to many variables to say exactly what I would do.
Family friends of ours went through something similar, although their son was an adult. He killed his girlfriend. They love him and continue to support him by visiting him in prison. They do not condone what he has done. He has 2 children from a previous relationship and thankfully his ex allows his parents to have contact with the children all the time. They are so thankful that they haven't lost their grandchildren as well as their son. He will be in prison for approx 17 more years.
His siblings absolutely flatly refuse to believe that their brother was the murderer (he has always pled not guilty, but the courts found otherwise). It's been very very tough on them.
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