My thoughts exactly.
I dunno, Im sure in your mind you are being sincere, but to me, it seems like you are actually on here invading her space and trying to appear as though you are genuine and if all "us" women on BH agree with you then your marriage can be saved then she must believe you. I guess Im very cynical and jaded, but I cant help but picture the person who repeatedly messes up, but then cries wringing his hands only to repeat the whole process again...which you have admitted you actually have done already.
I might get slammed for this, but if you know your wife used BH as a place of support, then maybe you should do the honourable thing and find another forum for your support. Give her her safe space back.