I don't think you are overreacting. You are sick, you have 3 kids - that is hard and i don't think it too much to ask that your DH comes home at the time that was organised. You haven't denied him his fun - he still went to the party. What about you? Why are you less important than him having his fun at a party?
I understand why you are upset
If it was me, id now be telling him that he is going to wait till after we have dinner if he wants to be picked up. Either that or take a cab.
Last year at the work Christmas party DP got drunk and i had to stay home because me and DD were sick. We work at the same place so it was ment to be my christmas party as well. He decided he wanted to stay later so i said fine but im not coming till after we have dinner and i bath DD/ shower myself.
I don't think you bare either. I would be exactly the same- and have been. It's not that DH is out that p!sses me off, it's when he tells me he will be home at a certain time (when he knows damn well he won't be) and then fails to do so. THATS what annoys me. As I have told him, if you want to go out that's fine, but if you say you will be home at certain time then be home at that time or at least call or text me to let me know you will be late. If you don't know what time you will be home then don't say a time!
And if I was sick... Well... He wouldn't be going anyway. But that's him, not me.
I don't think you are over reacting at all. And yep, make him catch a cab home!
Eta - the times he has come home late, he has slept on the front lawn. I have always said if he isn't home when he says he will be, I will lock him out. So I did.
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It's hard when you're sick and home looking after kids while he's out having fun. I find when I'm sick I get cranky quickly, that wouldn't be helping.
I agree, let him have his fun, but I'd be expecting some appreciation and caring when he's home, or else reciprocation - plan to go out with friends when you're well and he can watch the kids.
The question was am I over reacting and based on your first post I would say yes.
It's a party and if you are having fun you want to stay no biggy.
However based on your second post I would say there is way more to it.
Either way big hugs and I hope you feel better soon. Maybe leave the dishes for him to do.
There isn't much more to it. He is a FIFO worker and I'm a full time ink student and mum. Just sucks because every time the kids or I are sick he is away for work.
I posted in here because I know I'm a cranky cow when sick. So wanted to know what other people thought. Will just get what I have to do done and head to bed. Don't want to cause a fight
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Ahh ok. Being sick with kids is not much fun.
Hopefully he will be back soon.
Try to relax, put the kids to bed and rest. Forget anything else.
This was me on sat night. a bit different though, wasnt that he was going to be late as such, but, always a but, I had other things to do, he commited to me that he would be ready to be picked up by a certain time. Although dh didnt ring to say he would be longer, didnt answer his phone so I could tell him what i needed to, so in the end I went to the pub in the middle of his xmas do with my fun-police hat on to drag him out. When I got in he was drunk as drunk gets and needed taking home, and boy he puked the whole way!! So yes I was happy for him to go, I was p!ssed when he decided that he was going to drink on without any thought or consideration to me and what I was doing.
op I know how you were feeling
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