I agree! Everything they said is just right! I absolutely refuse to have anyone around except my hubby and kids when bringing home a new baby. I mean, sometimes you feel really yucky, messyand sticky and you need to feel comfortable being able to take your top off to feed and go to the loo when you want, sleep when you can and maybe even have a little cry if you need to. It's not the time for entertaining until you feel right within yourself. Even if you do step off the ward in perfect, completely happy and sorted condition - it's nice to spend those early weeks just learning to be a mum and dad. Congratulations and all the best for a wonderful delivery and beautiful moments with your first little baby.
Oh no you're not being a hormonal cow at all! I can't think of anything worse than having house guests when i am due and or bringing home a new baby.
I truely hope you are able to have them stay else where and aren't pressured into going along with it. You will feel incredibly resentful if you have to allow them to stay and it will impose on you and your DH massively. I'm sorry but this is a huge milestone in your marriage and this time is for you, your DH and your little baby to bond particularly in those first few weeks.
So many first time mums get rail roaded because they are talked into thinking they don't know whats best or that they are overreacting due to hormones ect. Don't be one of them. First time or not you have a right to bring your baby home in peace without the added stress of other people around much less people you hardly know in laws or not- how rude!!
I agree this is completely your time. The family wants to be involved understandably but my god it sounds selfish to have them expect you to put any of them up!
Being pregnant makes you hormonal and i think more vulnerable so it makes me angry that you feel imposed apon in this way. Your wishes need to be respected particularly right now- it's a no brainer really.
If they are not it won't bode well for your future relationship with your inlaws at all and they themselves should be mindful of that.
I really hope that your next post is to tell us that you will in fact be free to relax and get used to being a new mother without all that outside pressure from inlaws/house guests.
Last edited by laurea; 23-12-2011 at 11:11.
WOW. i thank you all for your supportive words and good advice.
I told him how i felt in a not so tactful way and he ignored the hormones and told the family nicely they would have to stay elsewhere. I suggested to him the brother and gf should stay with the parents and this is exactly what they are going to do -as they are only here to meet the baby and take some photos anyway, it seems they dont mind.
i feel so relieved that a solution has been found to accommodate everyones needs, now i can go back to focusing on my own and geting last minute things ready for the arrival of this baby. i know they will require him to spend time and go to dinners with them etc. but this is at least the lesser of the evils presented.
once again, thanking you all for making me feel better and providing solutions. sometimes i feel like a raging bull and the need to go to war is stronger than the need to make peace.
Congrats MsD, thats awesome news it has all worked out for you
Sometimes family come up with some really inconsiderate/stressful plans! I'm glad that your DH talked to his family & its all sorted.
You must be relieved! Great to hear
Great new hun! Good luck!!
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