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    Default Trying for 6 months. What to do now?

    Hi everyone. Am 29 years old. I have a beautiful daughter who is 16 months old. We conceived her semi quickly. Was off the pill for 9 months or so and tried for about 2 months before finding out we were pregnant.

    After stopping breastfeeding when dd was 11 months I got my first period (July). I fell pregnant straight away in August but unfortunately this ended in an early miscarriage at 4.5 weeks.

    Since then me and dh have been using opk's and dtd every month, every day sometimes for 10 days, just generally dtd a lot and trying to cover all bases. Some months every second day etc. I've had ewcm each month, positive opk's, but every 30 days my period comes without fail.

    It's been 6 months and nothing. I know it can take a while etc. but I'm wondering whether it's worth speaking to a doctor, getting some tests done (I don't even know what kind) just to see what's going on?

    Would I just go to a regular GP? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

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    You can go to your doctor and get them to check your iron levels and a day 21 blood test to be sure you are truly ovulating.

    OPK's only show the hormone surge, which you can get and not ovulate. Apart from that there's probably not much you can do. My doctor won't even consider a referral to a specialist until 12 months

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    Thanks Emzy

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    As you're quite young and have fallen pregnant previously I would say most doctors would not consider you to have a fertility issue until at least 12 months+ (as Emzy said).

    Because you're timing up your cycle every month and doing everything right, maybe you should consider visiting an acupuncturist (have heard they can work wonders for some) or maybe researching diet and nutrition etc? I know 6 months feels like ages (I started to get antsy around five months with my first!) but chances are very high you'll fall within 12. Sending good vibes your way.

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    I could of written this post about 2.5 years ago!

    As hard as it is, my advice is to take a step back and relax as much as you can. My DS1 was concieved in 4 months so imagine my surprise when it took us 12 months of TTC to fall pregnant with DS2. No fertility issues, we are just one of the couples that its not easy for. We are now having thoughts about #3 but have decided not to TTC and just go with the flow.

    Its so hard because TTC is such an emotional journey, I completely understand. But I would just try and give it another few months and just forget about the OPK's, and just try not to stress about it and relax as much as possible.

    Good luck, I hope it happens quickly for you


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    Have you tried the SMEP plan ? we tried for almost 12 months (including cycle tracking, OPK's etc etc, & were planning on seeing the FS but turns out we were DTD 'too much' apparently the best chance of getting pg is dtd on the night the opk turns positive, and for the next 2 nights, skip a night & then dtd one more night ) I have heard fantastic things about the SMEP & we fell pg first go on it.

    Good luck



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    Thanks everyone for your replies. They're really helpful. It's day 2 of my period. I guess these early days are the hardest. We do try and relax during the month - the only time it's hard is those last couple of days when you don't know whether to test or wait etc.

    We tried the smep for the last 2 months. I think I will do away with the opk's this month and try and go with the flow as some have suggested (like the first and second time I fell pregnant). My twin sister announced her pregnancy a few days after I told her about my miscarriage and I'm so happy for her but seeing her growing bump makes me feel sad sometimes. I've still kept the positive test from my miscarriage so I know in a way I haven't gotten over it.

    Thanks everyone for your replies.


 

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